Posted in The Big Three

About Being Married

Rarely talk about this. Why now? It is the result of registering in one of mommies forum. Not to share,just like to read those pages.

The first thread I went through was about relationship with husband after being married/having children. I finished all pages within two days. A whole 68 pages with hundreds posts.

So, then it’s true that being married is very far from easy since all those moms shared how their husband changed after a baby. Mostly not in a good way.

Then,another thread was about In-laws talk. There, everything about the in-laws were shared. Again, mostly not in a good way.

It made me feel a bit embarassed. For being so ungrateful (often). At least, I have a husband and all in-laws that I won’t talk about that way in such forum.

It has not been easy at all for these two years. So much hard work, compromising, patience, while it would be still a bit hard for the next two years. I am talking about le husband’s residency.

But, if I looked back, we had been  through lots too. Those things that we didn’t imagine that we could go through safely. Every single thing that I often forget when I was angry to le husband.

Since my head is currently working well, let’s count the major blessings this marriage brings :

– Thank You for giving me such patient, funny, and loveable husband. Although he is messy:/

– Thank You for putting me in such kind family and parents and brothers in-laws and Thank you for not giving me a sister in-law;))

– Thank you for giving me such healthy, funny, adorable daughter through this marriage. I have been living 30 years without her. Being 4 months with her makes me wonder how I can be fine during those 30 years.

So, If someone asks me which one is better between before and after le marriage?

My answer will be : I stand on the right side.

Posted in The Big Three

Random thoughts

Currently sitting on the sofa after pumping breast-milk. It is 6.30 am now and today is Wednesday. Going to Yamaha at 2 pm. I have been resuming teaching since January. Only for one day.

Langit is still having her morning sleep after bathing. She will wake up soon usually. My morning has been more hectic since last 4 months. But, it is true that more busy makes you more productive and efficient. I am able to do more houseworks when I am alone. Like having spare time to write this.

Lately, when I was breastfeeding Langit and being alone, my thoughts wandered here and there. The silence made me reminisce the days in the past when everyone were still here. The morning when everyone were busy preparing for school and work, had breakfast together in the table and usually on the weekend we even stayed longer and had conversations. Never thought such small routine is very priceless in years later.

Not to say that I am not happy with le husband and Langit, but it might be happier when we just add the member without losing one(s).
Yeah, just my two cents.

Then, hope for a good day today. Amin.

Posted in Langit Senja, Review

Melahirkan di RS Sam Marie Basra (Updated-linked to the birth story)

(Update) : Beberapa kali liat stats blog ternyata post ini lumayan banyak yang baca. Jadi saya mau sedikit nambahin gambaran biayanya.

Waktu hamil, pernah search review tentang melahirkan di Sam Marie Basra tapi ngga ketemu satupun. Jadi, pengen aja nulis tentang tempat orang-orang yang bantu Langit dari dalam kandungan sampai lahir. Jadi, kalo satu saat Langit baca dia juga tau:)

Sebelum mutusin mau kontrol dimana, kita dateng ke dua RS. Cuma dua pilihan itu yang penting deket rumah. Jadi kalo nanti mau kontrol atau lahiran ngga pake macet-macetan.

Pertama ke Sam Marie, resepsionisnya responsif, RSnya juga ngga terlalu gede tapi bersih. Pertama kali masuk suka sih, emang maunya bukan RS gede yang pasiennya banyak. Kita tanya-tanya tentang melahirkan cesar disana dan dikasih mini leaflet dan brosur tentang paket melahirkan di sana. Tanya-tanya juga tentang biaya kontrol perbulan.

Selesai dari sana, kita ke RS  satunya lagi di Pondok Bambu. Kebetulan pas kita dateng lagi ada renovasi jadi agak kotor. Masuk lobi agak gelap penerangannya, beda sama SMB yang terang. Ke informasi cuma ada satu mas-mas, entah dia emang petugasnya atau emang jaga aja disana. Nanya-nanya cuma dikasih brosur. Udah. Banyak bener yang minus untuk kesan pertama.

Di rumah, liat dan bandingin harga antara SMB dan yang satu, yah, mungkin emang ada harga ada rupa. Lumayan jauh beda biayanya. Akhirnya tetep mutusin ke SMB, selain kesan pertamanya oke dan rencananya mau kontrol ke Prof yang dulu dosennya pak dokter. Biayanya masih bisa diusahain insya Allah.

(Update) : Biaya kontrol per datang sedikit berbeda antara Prof dan Obgyn lainnya. Waktu zaman saya hamil, biaya konsultasi ke Prof sekitar 300-350 ribu, sedangkan obgyn lain sedikit di bawah 300 ribu. Tapi, terakhir kali kontrol ke dsa ada pengumuman yg menyatakan per November 2014 ada kenaikan untuk pasien Prof. Berapanya saya ngga tau pasti.

Selama hamil, selain ke Prof sempet ke dr Nurhidayat juga dua kali. Beliau juga spesialis fertilitas kayak Prof. Sempet ke dia waktu tiba-tiba keluar flek pas hamil 6 bulan dan di satu kali kontrol pasien prof penuh dan kita ngga kebagian. Kebetulan pas dr Nur juga praktek, jadi ke dia lagi. Alhamdulillah dua-duanya baik dan enak buat ditanya-tanya.

Waktu hamil 6 bulan keluar flek sempet dirawat sehari. Kita ambil kamar yang semi-vip. Kamarnya seorang satu, cukup luas, ada sofabed dan harganya masih di bawah satu juta. Dikasih Aqua 1,5L dan ada beberapa minuman kotak lain seperti buavita. Menurut saya cukup bagus dan sesuai sama harga yang dibayar. Alhamdulillah cuma sehari dan udah boleh pulang besok siangnya.

(Update): sebelum lahiran, kita udah bener-bener hitung kira-kira akan ambil kamar apa. Uang yang disiapkan juga untuk melahirkan cesar, buat jaga-jaga. Rencananya, berdasarkan brosur paket melahirkan dari Sam Marie tahun 2014, kita mau ambil kalau untuk normal 3 hari yg kamar semi-vip biaya sekitar 17 jutaan. Saya agak lupa itu termasuk apa aja. Tp seandainya musti cesar kita akan ambil kelas 1 sekamar berdua. Itu total biayanya sekitar 14-15 juta. Terus terang, selain ngebayangin melahirkannya, liat biayanya juga bikin deg2an -___-.

Waktu lahiran, dateng ke RS kamis siang ke IGD dulu dicek. Karena ternyata udah bukaan 3, langsung disuruh daftar kamar. Berarti Alhamdulillah kemungkinan besar saya bisa melahirkan normal. Untuk cerita proses melahirkannya udah saya ceritain di post ini

Tapi, sayangnya saat itu kamar Semi-VIPnya ngga ada. Pilihannya antara kelas 1 (2 orang sekamar) dan VIP. Liat-liat bedanya cuma seratus ribu, jd akhirnya pilih VIP. Kamarnya sih ngga jauh beda sama yang semi, cuma lebih luas aja. Di Sam Marie ruang rawatnya hanya satulantai di lantai 3. Jadi, memang agak untung-untungan kalo harepin pas Semi-VIPnya kosong. Tapi, Alhamdulillah karena bisa normal, masih oke buat upgrade ke VIP.

Untuk service, suster dan bidannya hampir semua baik dan ramah. Entah kelas kamar berpengaruh apa ngga ya,hehe. Tapi yang jelas mereka cukup helpful banget selama tiga hari dirawat disana.

Makanannya buat saya cukup enak. Kaya masakan rumahan. Bukan yang bisa milih mau masakan western atau apa kaya di rs tempat almh ibu saya dulu dirawat memang. Tapi buat saya oke. Dapet makan pagi, siang, malam dan snack dua kali. Satu yang saya kurang suka di makanannya adalah sarapannya. Hari pertama nasi goreng, hari kedua bubur, hari ketiga roti. Jadi makin turun,hehe.

Dokter-dokter disana kebanyakan setau saya dari UI. Berhubung Prof Jacoeb yang punya emang dosen dan guru besar (kalo ngga salah) UI. Pak dokter masih sempet diajar dia pas S1. Makanya tiap kontrol Alhamdulillah jasa dokternya ngga dicharge sama Prof:D

Tapi, pas melahirkan saya dibantu sama dokter lain yang ternyata menantu Prof. Yang ternyata juga lulusan obgyn UI temen seniornya pak dokter. Lebih ternyata lagi, dia juga suami kakak kelas saya pas di semabel. Kakak kelas saya dokter juga spesialis kulit dan kelamin. Keluarga Prof itu kayanya semua pinter, ganteng, cantik dan well-being. Mungkin ada cucu laki-lakinya buat nanti kalo Langit udah gede.

Ni cerita jadi kemana-mana. Pokoknya pas lahiran Alhamdulillah cukup lancar biarpun seinget saya itu semua dokter,suster sempet frustasi juga karena saya salah ngeden berkali-kali. Mungkin sepuluh kali ada. Atau lebih. Entahlah. Yang jelas, aduh kalo inget itu rasanya kaya ngga percaya bisa lewatin semua. Belum pas selesai dijahitnya. Ampuunn, kayanya tiap inget langsung bergidik sendiri. Sakit.
Alhamdulillah lagi dokternya rapi jahitnya,jadi ngga ada jahit ulang segala. Nulis ini sambil ngebayangin aja lemes-_-

Di sini juga Pro ASI dan rooming-in. Waktu hari kedua ASI blm keluar seharian,sama sekali ngga ditawarin untuk pake sufor. Tiap dateng suster-susternya selalu bilang , ” ga papa bu,nyusuin terus aja. Nanti keluar kok”. Bener aja,besoknya bukan cuma keluar, tapi bengkak sampe panas banget badan kerasanya. Langit pun nyusu kaya balas dendam, ngga berenti-berenti.

Soal harga. Sam Marie emang di atas harga rs lain yang sekitarnya. Asuransi yang kerjasama cukup banyak. Cuma ngga merhatiin berhubung saya bayar pribadi.Makanya mungkin dia ngga serame RS ibu dan anak yang di Pondok Bambu itu. Dulu, sempet juga mau coba kesana. Cuma beberapa kali orang ada aja yang bilang jangan kesana. Jadi ya ngga kesana juga. Mungkin agak males pindah-pindah juga.

Saya sih cukup nyaman banget disini. Naik mobil cuma 10 menit. Pernah kontrol naik angkot juga. Jalan kaki 5 menit,naik angkot tinggal lurus 5 menit. Ngga pake macet. Dokternya oke dan ngga pake lama antrinya. Bersih dan ngga berisik. Sejauh ini belum ada komplain dan ngga kepikir buat pindah RS.

Mungkin itu kali ya. Semoga kalo ada yang baca bisa bantu buat jadi bahan pertimbangan.

Sekian.

Posted in Langit Senja

The Fourth Month

Langit Senja is turning 4 months by next week. Hardly believe that time really flies. She also does not look like a baby anymore.

She has started babling, cooing, laughing and screaming a lot. It is all soo amusing. She also has developed definite sleeping pattern which makes my life so much easier since I can have enough sleep at night. She likes talking with her grandfather a lot. If I heard both of them making conversation, it was so hillarious. Alhamdulillah she has been healthy during these 4 months. Both of us, Alhamdulillah.

Last visit to dr Lia was also great. Her weight increased 1000gr! The highest along these 4 months. So, she was 5,2 kg by then. Her heights also increased 5 cm to 60 cm. Hopefully, she will continue doing well. Amin.

The only thing that is quite concerning me is her crying habit before sleeping. When she is sleepy, she will be cranky then will cry so loud. Not for long, but still, if people heard it, as if I am doing something horrible to her -_-

Dear Cipi, keep healthy and happy, baby. I too love you so much:*:*:*

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The warm smile that never fails me
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She surely has many laughable expressions. This is one of them.
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Current state

Honest or dishonest?

Dishonest : so so. I am fine.

Honest : unhappy. Like much.

Maybe due to exhaustion, boredom, loneliness, dissapointment, and several things lost recently, such as works and me time routine. Meanwhile, endless house works only make it worse.

Sometimes, I feel like trapped here with all those stuff I have to do. I just can ignore it actually, but I can’t.

Update :
It is getting sucker and sucker. If only my mum were still here and healthy, I would not stay here at all.

Never mind the houseworks, I don’t really mind doing all those with very little help. What bothers is that everyone think that I am such a housekeeper.

Won’t go any details. I just want to escape from here. I am tired of everyone’s selfishness.

Posted in Langit Senja

The Third month

Things have been very much better and enjoyable this month. Although there are few times that made me quite stressful, overall we have worked together very much better.

Langit has been improved a lot physically. She has now those baby fat on her body, gladly alhamdulillah. She has begun to coo, babble, and likes to suck her fingers once she wakes up. It is so funny everytime I hear her doing that:))

She also now smiles and laughs a lot. Especially to those she sees everyday. Seeing her smile and laugh to me can repay all the exhaustion of taking care everything without any help. Really, that is not easy at all.

I noticed several of her characters too. Then the more I notice, the more it resembles me, hehe. Let say like she likes an ordinary day. She does not really like going out. If we took her out, she would be just sleeping. Then, when we arrived at home, she would wake up and… made me stay awake for hours. Even almost always a whole night -_-. It is as if she said like, ” Mum, you had your fun already, now it is my turn”.

She will be very nice on a usual day. Sleep,wake up, having milk, play a little bit, then going back to sleep and those are repeated all day.

She seems not to fancy meeting people too. Not only going out, when we have some guests coming for her, she prefers sleeping. Even to bntg’s mum she still sleeps a lot. She would wake up once the guests were leaving, when I was about to sleep.
Sigh -_-.

Another one is that she seems not be able to sleep just any where. She just can have a good sleep in her own crib. That is soo me. I don’t keen of sleeping in any bed,any room.

We will visit dr Liay next Monday insya Allah and hope all is well. Amin.

Donc, joyeaux 3 mois, ma bébe. Keep healthy and happy, dear:*

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The best laughter I have ever seen
Posted in Langit Senja, Maternité

Rainbow After The Rain

If previous post was quite gloomy then this one will seem to be a happier post.

Yesterday had been one day that made me anxious for quite some time. Pediatrician  visit.

It was not a usual visit since she would have BCG and retrovirus vaccine and also piercing. I had been quite anxious imagining her having those needles injected to her little body and the effect after it. That was why I told the doc hat I would wait until le husband returned from Ruteng so at least I would not face the crankiness alone.

I tried my best to not to convey my anxiety to her yesterday. I didn’t rush her bathing schedule also not forcing her to sleep. I finished my dhuha prayer then went to the hospital.

It started well when we arrived dr Lia was already there. Then it was  getting better when the nurse examine her and the result was very good. Beyond my expectation. Her weight now is already 4,2 kg, increased by 700 grams within 23 days.

It reduced my anxiety. A lot. At least, we are doing good for our exclusive breastfeed. Move to the next thing.

I was still being next to her when she had her immunization. But, when it was time for piercing then I could not stand it any longer. I chose to sit in the discussion table without even glanced. Hearing her scream really broke my heart and I could not help crying too. It was only an ear. She still had another one.

I decided to go outside unless I would faint inside and re-entered after it finished. Then my anxiety was almost totally disappeared. Next : baby massage.

Baby massage was much more easier. Although she had been quite cranky but it was good. Another good thing was the birth certificate was done too. I went home light-heartedly. Even at home, her crankiness felt nothing. It was more rainbow than rain;)

Well done, baby girl! Let’s keep up the good work! Cum cum cum and pluk pluk pluk from me:*

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I won’t show you my new earrings
Posted in Langit Senja, Maternité

Rapot merah

Baru dua bulan jadi ibu kok ya ngga sabaran betul.

Marah – marah sendiri, ninggiin suara, tapi abis itu ngerasa bersalahnya jangan ditanya.

Sedih pokoknya.

Sebulan pak dokter dinas di Ruteng jadi makin ngurus semua sendiri.

Ngga mudah ya jadi orang tua. Susah ternyata jadi ibu.

Kalo mamen masih ada, mungkin bisa dicek ibunya Langit kaya apa waktu bayi.

Selamat dua bulan, anak bucuk. Sehat selalu, makin pinter, dan makin sabar sama mamanya yang banyakan kurang daripada lebihnya.  Biarpun begitu, mamanya sayang sekali sama Langit.

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Posted in Langit Senja, Maternité

A month

Writing this post remind me of how boring to read a blog and instagram whose owners only talked about their baby. Until I become one of them -__-

A month little langit is still under weight. Quite heart breaking hearing the news on the last visit. Her height and head round were all good. Just under weight. We have done the aqiqah too on December 26. Alhamdulillah.

I won’t making any excuses. I take care her alone, while still have to do all the houseworks stuff. The past two weeks was quite a drama since mbak wi, our-long-time maid decided to quit. It was really something since she had been with us for 18 years. But then, as my favorite quote said, nothing lasts forever. Maybe it was really her time to leave and I was dragged to do more houseworks.

It ruined my mood a lot. I even snapped Langit few times. Sorry, dear:(

But things have to go on. Found a new one. Still in the process of adapting each other.

Okay girl, let’s work harder and better. Keep healthy!

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A month little Langit
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Old text

Having Langit is truly one of the greatest things happen in my life. Several times when I am looking at her, it is a bit hard to believe that this little funny girl, yes, she has many funny faces:)), is truly my daughter.

Few years back then, I had no idea of me having a child, let alone a child, even a marriage was sound too scary. I enjoyed my comfort zone with my family.

The term family now has been altered since I have my own. It reminds me how things really change, or really have to change one day. I never imagine living without my mum before. Having a child without her guiding me. I thought my life will be as I predicted. My world had been turning around since 2 years ago. Life truly happens.

The journey with le husband so far has been fine. Quarel is surely unavoidable. It is impossible not to quarel when he marries me. It has been a tough 2 years with him. Facing all the difficulties here and there, but we made it so far. Tomorrow he will be leaving for Ruteng,NTT for a month. It is the first time we have another LDR after the marriage. Not too pleasant, hoping it will end sooner and well. Amin.

It’s 5 pm and I suddenly remember one of le husband’s old text :

” Is there any slightest chance that you would be the mother of my children?”

My answer was I didn’t know.

4 years later, here I am, writing this before preparing his daughter for afternoon bath..