This overthinking mind has been analyzing what makes things or dreams come true based on observations of life experiences, both from hers and others’. Three of them are on us, but the last one, the most important one, is not.
First thing first, you got to have the MONEY.
Working on three big dreams on my 20s, that was the first time I realized, every efforts that I pour to make those things happened would be useless unless I had the money. I had time to work on them, lots of energy to search things that could helping me to get there, yet, money was the least resources I had. That being said, those offer letters from many universities only became collections and proofs of my efforts. But, it never take me there.
It might be a harsh truth, but first and foremost, no dream would happen until you have enough money (or any source of fund) to achieve that.
Secondly, you have the TIME.
Here’s what followed after money. I agree that time is more precious commodity than money. Having the money without the time, won’t take you anywhere.
Third, ready to give your full ENERGY.
Let say now both things above are secured. Here goes the third layer. I acknowledge this on the last three years staying at home most of the time with the little girl. I have sufficient both the money and time. Then I realized, those two alone are not enough if you want to achieve something. It takes a lot of energy to do the thinking, to use your brain at its maximum capacity so both your precious capitals above would turn into something worthy.
It takes a lot of energy to beat yourself daily, to keep being disciplined on a daily basis, to make your child doing hard things, to not get discouraged by small setbacks, to not get distracted when you see there’s an easier option, to not being muddled in disappointment for too long when things don’t go according to your plan. Having enough money and abundant time won’t take you anywhere without drops of sweat. Having time and money alone are not enough to obtain this rare distinction and such long lists of awards.
That was also happened during planning for my tetralogy Ilana tan trips. The money was there, the time had been set, but, it requires huge amount energy to take us to each city. Hours, day, weeks month spent searching the best options within our means, endless reading and inquiries for making the hard earned money and limited time available spent wisely. Without adequate amount of energy, it would be impossible to achieve that.
Time and money solved half of the problems, but, the energy poured into work is what brings you to the finish line.
Last, but obviously not least, they are written on your DESTINY.
At the end, here comes the most powerful among the four.
I got everything covered and I needed to go to go to Paris during my 20s, yet, I didn’t get there.
I spent four years saving for having 40 days of Hajj in two holy cities, yet, I only spent half of the normal days there and without a chance to visit Madinah.
I chose a song for a piano competition carefully, practised with my hard working, three-time-champions-student for months diligently, yet, the result was among the worst it had ever been in that school competition.
Above and beyond our best efforts, the end result is never ours to decide.
This writing has been running around the head and saved in the draft for many months since last year. Ramadan has always been the best time to release the beasts that have been wandering inside for so long.
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