The Joy of Missing Out

Yesterday was quite a blast in the parents’ chat group. A considerable case blew up, and the talk has been going on the whole day, even some of them set up a Zoom meeting and discussed further.

Entering the fourth year of schooling here, I enjoy staying under the radar regarding relationships with mothers. I didn’t share my personal social media account like others do, only saying something when it’s necessary, saying no often to rendezvous, saying yes to few playdates that are important to my daughter, and being invisible most of the time.

Here, parents group chat is usually too loud for my preference. But this group is quite tolerable. I am grateful for the group that letting me being invisible without pushing me away completely. I form certain degree of closeness to some of them, but, that’s it.

Yesterday was exceptional. The case was too big to ignore since it was already considered criminal. But, discussing the case from morning till night was already too much, for me. It becomes endless and aimless.

Yesterday was a lesson not to trust someone too much or get too close until they know everything about yourself, your belongings, and even your bank card PIN. The one who stabs you is never one who is far away. It’s always the one who is the closest to you. That is always the case.

It’s important to spare some room of doubts for everyone including yourself, when it comes to money, especially those with power and they’re dealing with money.

I believe adult life needs a certain degree of anti-socialness to keep a peaceful life. You can’t treat everyone the same. Everyone that you know deserves different layers of yourself that you want to show them. You don’t give your access key to everyone.

Your true people don’t need you to take pictures and tag you on social media when you meet them. Your true people don’t make you feel the obligation to return whatever you give them. Your true people are the ones you want to give without expecting any return too.

Clearly, it’s impossible to have too many for such a description.

It also helps to be clear about your goal so you can recognize some distractions that you don’t need in life. One of my daily goals is to want peace and quiet, a close to drama-free life, especially from strangers.

Thus, putting those too-loud chat groups in WhatsApp in the archive feature is one way to achieve such goal.

Certain control of life drama is in our hands.

Use it well.