It Starts with The End

Being a mother is personally life changing experience.

It makes me question everything I have been through growing up, as a daughter, as an adult and as a wife.

It makes me read and learn more to answer those questions.

I observe people lives intensely growing up and I wrote it down. Sometimes it makes me feel like a villain character from a thriller movie.

My to-go life hack has always been : think-read-think-read some more-wait-looking for alternatives-wait-bismillah execute.

The speed always depends on consequences and the hassles it brings. Some things take days, other take weeks or months, some specifc things takes years.

I thought life runs linearly until my mid 20s. When I arrived at certain milestones, then, why it wasn’t as I thought it is? But, I still operated with the similar mindset.

Until my daughter arrived and many many life changing things happened after she came. Then, I realized, it doesn’t work like that, so I started reorganizing, my thought, my life, and my execution.

Raising a human being turned out to be the hardest training in decision making. So little time, so much to do, and it needs backward thinking.

In writng a great fiction, the writer starts with the end. It’s the most important thing to consider. Without knowing how it ends, it’s hard to write a story a highly coherent story. This one reason makes Harry Potter is one of the greatest literatures ever made.

Raising a human being works like that too. Without having clear end goals, we will raise them as we were being raised or following the crowd without knowing why we do what we do.

I am mindful woman above the paper, but to be a mindful mother, the training is brutal and it’s not getting easier as I am getting older and she’s growing up.

With everything that has been currently happening and going around outside, it’s even more important to be more intentional and thoughtful on to how we raise our children.

I always say repeatedly, May Allah make it easy, and I really really mean it now more than ever.