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Lurking

Received two grief news within a week of the passing of two women who were known through mutual acquaintances. Both were on my age, leaving their two little children behind. Although I didn’t know them personally, but still, the thought of the children who lost their mother in such young age is painful.

It’s a heart-wrenching reminder that life is actually the most fragile thing in the world. One tiny single thing could turn your life upside down. One single unmeaningful thing could lead to the broken of long-kept trust, no-turn-back separation, and the end of happy days you thought would last forever.

One ‘kun fayakun’ from the owner of this life could make you jump from the top of the world to the bottom of the earth core.

The scariest thing is that you have no control about this. Death and misfortunes are always lurking around, waiting for the exact time to appear after it’s being commanded from the owner of the whole life. No single second of negotiation, no matter how much effort you have done to anticipate any miscalculations.

Death should always be a constant and strong reminder to live kind of life which deserves to be granted a good ending. That is far from easy and not just everyone is granted with such good ending. What is a good ending? It’s up to us to choose what kind of things we aim to measure our life.

Watching my closest families died few times makes me believe one thing : the way we die determined by the way we live. We can’t choose our start, but we really can work hard for our ending. In the end, we only get the ending we deserve to have. Just like the future shaped from what we do today, the next life would be also the result of the deeds we have done in previous life.

Shouldn’t we then live the life like the famous line from Imam Ali Bin Abi Thalib RA?

Work for this world as if you will live forever and work for the here-after as if you will die tomorrow.

I pray that both families given the strength they need to go through everything, may those little children would be always protected, and may the mothers rest well.

Ready or not, finish or unfinish,

when it’s time to go, we go.

When it’s time to let go, we just have to let go.

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Nerdy Cambridge

The last day trip before spring term starts or we can say the first out of London trip this year.

Cambridge is only less than an hour from London. We took 9.12 train from Euston and arrived exactly at 10am at Cambridge station. The first impression told that this city is a quiet one.

The first stop was the Eagle pub. It is the place where Watson and Crick for the first time published and discussed their finding about double helix DNA.

Not far from the pub, there is the iconic place from the famous university. King’s College is the most famous college among 31 colleges in Cambridge university. The entrance ticket for two adults cost £18. The college was huge, quiet, and tranquil. Inside the college there’s Kings College Chapel. On the way out, we passed the river where visitors can go punting at certain price. Going around the college by the boat with a guide who rows the boat. We passed the punting.

We continued walking to the Cambridge Market. Unlike Oxford, the market is only an open market and the tenants are not that interesting. Nothing special about the market. We also had lunch there before heading to city centre.

The city centre is pretty lovely. The small alleys are really charming. It has the ambience like an old town. Along the way, we met climate change parade like one we saw in Oxford street in October. We just kept walking around, passed St John College and the famous Newton Apple tree.

We stopped by at few shops that drew our interest like the flagship store of Cambridge Satchel Company, the famous bags made in UK bag from Cambridge (this one was once a trend few years ago in Jakarta), Ryder and Amies, the 120 years university store in Cambridge, and Children at Heffers, a hidden book store which we coincidentally passed, which has great collections. If I were tourist who would comeback to my own home where my own mini library were there, I would definitely bought all those my favorite children books series!

As we only had seven hours in Cambridge, we didn’t enter any other colleges. Instead we went straight to our last destination which was Cambridge Central Mosque. We did zuhur-asr prayer and waited for maghrib there.

Cambridge central mosque is beautiful. Located in Mill Road, the mosque is one of the best that we have ever visited. It’s huge, bright, and well designed. The ablution room is so large and sparkling clean. Even the toilet has the mini shower which is very rare in this country. More, the abaya for prayer is also available! I was greatly impressed.

We did maghrib prayer in jamaat and it had been a long time since I heard a proper adzan. How I miss it a lot. From the mosque, we took a walk to the station. It wasn’t that close, but waiting for the bus was longer. It was just 4.30 pm but it was dark already, but the area was quite safe for walking.

After having three one day trips to the most visited places in UK, I could do some description about these cities.

Bath has an old people ambiance. Tea shop are everywhere. It’s just like visiting an old English lady who loves afternoon tea and enjoys scones and bun.

Oxford is the stylish, popular, out-going guy. The lively vibe, the crowd. It suits an extrovert personality.

While Cambridge is the opposite of Oxford. It’s quiet, tranquil, and obviously fit the description of a nerd introvert guy, which is totally my type😃.

Seven hours spent in Cambridge was a good start before heading to the new spring term tomorrow, resuming work next week and the exam at the end of the month.

This girl survived her third winter trip with her little scooter. You rock, girl!

Shall we aim this place for your future school perhaps?

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Tahun Baru, Lagu Lama

Hari pertama di tahun yang baru dibuka dengan berita banjir di Jakarta. Daerah rumah di Jakarta sudah sekitar 7 tahun ke belakang absen banjir. Dulu tiap siklus 5 tahun salah satu perumahan yang paling parah dan sering masuk tv. Udah pernah ngerasain di evakuasi pake perahu karet dari atap rumah di tahun 2007 kalo ngga salah.

Dapat kabar kalo kemarin perumahan kembali banjir, mobil sempat kemasukan air, dan beberapa rumah tetangga yang rendah, airnya sampai masuk ke rumah. Bahkan beberapa area yang dulunya bebas banjir kemarin jadi banjir, lebih buruknya ada korban jiwa.

Selain simpati, sedih, terus terang lebih banyak putus asa dan apatisnya.

Setelah mengira kita sudah maju cukup jauh, ternyata kembali ke titik yang sama. Salah satu hubungan tersulit adalah hubungan dengan negara dan kota tempat saya tinggal. Sulit sekali bisa bener-bener sayang. Saya percaya banyak orang baik, tapi kenyataannya orang-orang yang punya kesempatan, tanggung jawab lebih dan kekuatan signifikan untuk membangun, memperbaiki negara dan ibukota ini, pernah ngga sih benar-benar punya itikad itu?

Pernyataan kaya gini ngga perlu dipelintir jadi mulai aja dari diri sendiri, jangan semua mengharap pemerintah. Bukan itu poinnya. Sudah tugas pemerintah sebagai yang punya kuasa dan sumber daya untuk melakukan, membangun hal-hal yang sifatnya untuk kepentingan bersama. Tipikal sekali kalau negara/kota kita itu setiap ada bencana tindakannya selalu hanya kuratif. Tapi jaraaaaaanggg sekali yang preventif.

Waktu bencana terjadi semua sibuk turun tangan kasih bantuan. Buat yang swadaya dari masyarakat, perlu dikasih apresiasi. Tapi, yang dari pemerintah, kecuali yang berwenang sudah melakukan semua cara dengan kekuasaan dan kekuatan yang mereka punya untuk mencegah atau paling tidak meminimalisir kerugian yang ditimbulkan dari bencana, bantuan pada saat bencana itu omong kosong.

Setelah bencananya selesai, lupa lagi. Ngga pernah benar-benar dipikirkan harus apa sih supaya ngga terulang. Orang pinterya banyak tapi ngga ada yang benar-benar peduli. Ngga ngerti saya apa yang dipikirin. Sudah jelas ada siklusnya kapan curah hujan paling tinggi terjadi tiap tahun, sudah ada historinya kejadian di tahun 1997, 2002, 2007, Jakarta berubah jadi lautan. Kok bisa masih take it for granted juga? Gemes sampe pengen nangis saking frustasinya.

Pas bencana terjadi semua bantuan didatangkan. Tapi setelah bencana, keberlanjutan hidup harus dipikirkan sendiri lagi. Saya merasa kita ini punya negara auto pilot. Hampir semua harus diusahakan sendiri. Secara individu yang tangguh banyak, tapi secara karakter bangsa keseluruhan, jauh. Kebijakan yang berubah-ubah dalam segala hal, satu hal baik dari yang sebelumnya jarang sekali diteruskan dan lebih pilih jalankan yang baru atau malah ngga ada yang dikerjakan.

Sampai saya percaya, bahwa kemungkinan sampai seratus tahun ke depan, kita ngga akan pernah bisa maju.

Ini bukan hanya berlaku di soal banjir. Tapi di banyak hal seperti di pendidikan, kesehatan, dan fasilitas publik lain yang seharusnya sudah sewajarnya disediakan oleh negara untuk warganya. Tiga bulan di London, saya baca banyak sekali buku yang buat saya iri sekali dengan penulis-penulis yang cerita tentang keadaan negara yang ada di buku itu. Saya pengen sekali nulis dan bahas beberapa buku yang bikin saya iri ini. Nanti mungkin.

Saya inget pernah nulis ini waktu Indonesia ultah ke 73 kalo ngga salah,

Loving you is not easy.

Leaving you is not a choice.

Giving up on you would never be an option.

Happy birthday, Indonesia.

Please, grow up.

Mungkin ngga ya bisa terkabul, suatu saat entah kapan?

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Back to Liverpool

The last weekend playground of the year spent in a city where the doctor heart has always been longing the most.

Liverpool was set once the annual leave approved and a home hospitality ticket was available for some quite pricey number. Yet, the chance to be able to watch the Reds in Anfield might not come twice, so secured it was better than regret. Alhamdulillah the ability to pay for it was also granted.

We once had been in Liverpool in 2017 but only for day trip doing the stadium tour. It’s beyond imagination that going back here to watch a live match granted two years later. I am not a fan at all, and I didnt watch the match with him too (I am not insane). But, since I knew the doctor from day one, his love for Liverpool is somewhat beyond a mere fan. So, it’s a pleasure to witness something that means so much for him.

We also stopped by Albert Dock, Museum of Liverpool, and the iconic statues of The Beatles for the first day itinerary. The second day agenda was going to The Beatles museum and Liverpool mosque.

The Beatles Story is one of paid museums that worths the pound spent, for us. The audio guide, the interior, the feel, they all make good combinations for an enjoyable visit. Ticket price is £17 for adult and £10. Langit is borderline and most of the time, some kind British staffs don’t count her so we often only pay for two adults.

For such big city, when you type Liverpool Central Mosque in search engine, you will only find one mosque called Al Rahma Mosque. I am not sure whether this one central or not, but the mosque located in a quiet residential area and quite far from city centre. Central mosque in one city is usually identic with halal food around. London, Oxford, Seoul, Tokyo, Bath, all located quite central surrounded by halal food restaurant. But in Liverpool, there is none.

In my opinion, Liverpool is more lively than Manchester. The city centre and the town are more charming. Although compared to London, the people are less friendly. Listening to the doctor’s explanation about Liverpool history, it is understandable that the people smile less than Londoners.

Another thing, I can safely say, the local seems really love their city. A taxi driver asked us where we came from and when he heard the answer that we live in London, he said something about pitying us and he started telling us about how good life in Liverpool is. Instead of annoyed, I found it so heart-warming listening to his story about places and felt the big love and pride he has for his hometown.

He gave us his number, told us to give him a call when we come back and he promised to give us a tour to the places less traveled by tourist in this city.

Then, there could be the third time, maybe?

I dont mind.

Posted in Langit Senja, Maternité

Midnight Rant

Woke up an hour before midnight, finished the cold spaghetti in the kitchen and one full circle of donut, without second thought. Brave woman, I know.

There’s always something about December that makes you want to reflect back about what life has brought to you for the whole year. Time when you can either feel everything runs too fast or such a great year it has been.

Everything related to raising Langit, it seems running too fast. I love rewatching her old pictures and videos and couldn’t help having that sudden anxiety feeling that she has grown up a lot. I have very little regret in raising her the way I do, at least until now. For the first time in five years of motherhood, this year might be the best report card I have ever received in this jungle.

To say such statement from my own point of view sounds so subjective, right? How can you measure such statement? What evidence to support such thing?

Among many other things I am clueless and incapable about, one thing that I know for sure is I want to give all my effort, time, and energy to raise my child by my own hand. Although I am lack in many things, but at least I am her mother. The least role model she could get and see at home are only from me and her father. Up until five years, she lives by the examples of her parents. Not strangers.

Saying I have received the best report card this year because some things I have seen in her daily life that seems to be already being part of her. Nothing like prizes, measurable achievements like winning a race or anything.

They are some intangible things like the way she apologizes when she feels doing something wrong, taking care and dealing with her own school stuff in the morning and knowing that we have to be hurry or we can be late, the way she tries to make the bed before going to school, sleeping by 8 pm every day without exception, go pee and brush her teeth by herself before sleeping, offer herself to wash her own lunch boxes.

The way she is coping up with the long hours of school five days a week, scootering to school in unfriendly weather happily, the way she loves reading and writing, keep practising often on her own, the way she hold herself from something that she is not allowed to, like eating chips other than weekend and always ask permission when she wants to do that, the way she always says thank you to the bus driver after getting off from the bus, the way she deals with a long day trip by scootering in freezing weather, which surely was totally uncomfortable, the way she eats properly with any kind of food served on her plate. We had Thai food for lunch and Libanais for the dinner on our Oxford trip, and she did them all without any signs of dislike. Raising a non-picky eater is one of my motherhood highlight so far.

It seems like a long list of small unimportant things right? But, it matters a lot for me because those are things that I consider important and want my child to master in her early age. Small things that mean a lot for the future years to come.

I believe we could never master big things when we never be able to accomplish the small ones. It’s the small habits in daily life that become our character. It’s those things you get from home since the very beginning. Things that can only be nurtured by the primary caregiver on early years of life at home. You can pay others to teach reading, writing, counting or any other skills by having twice a week lesson. But, no amount of money could do and any places to be to plant and grow such small habits other than at home.

Like the content in my bussiness development subject, to produce the product that you desire to have and to be, it’s strongly suggested that you go through all the process on your own. You decide the raw materials, the tools needed, the way to make it, and production timeline. Like four POAC steps in management, from planning, organizing, actuating and controlling, it’s you that should be fully in charged. You can outsource some parts, it’s unavoidable, no bussiness can survive alone, but, make sure you follow through the whole process. Even by doing all of that, it doesnt mean your product would be accepted by the market right away. It takes error and trial also a long journey to finally make a succesful product. You can define the characteristics of your own succesful product.

I guess that goes the same in raising a child.

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A Day Trip to Oxford

Last Saturday was a playground session for mommy. This time, the baby had to follow us to go to Oxford in less than five degree weather.

As the city of learning, Oxford is so lively and exciting. I couldn’t help admiring how they preserve such university buildings since 1231. All clean and seems just like what they were thousand years ago.

Oxford was chosen because few of Harry Potter filming scenes were there, good price for the train ticket, only an hour from London Marylebone. The city also has one of the 2019 best Christmas market in UK and Oxford Central Mosque is available. Many good reasons to make a visit to this city.

I planned to visit three colleges : New College, Christ Church College, and Magdalene, but only managed to visit two : New College and Christ Church. Is it free? Surely not. Budget for college entrance should be prepared when you want to visit this city.

In New College, we only visited the Divinity School, it costed £5 for family ticket. It’s only a small half-empty room which used as hospital wing in Harry Potter movie and several other movies. We had made our way to Magdalene College but, they only opened at 1 pm, so we left and didn’t comeback.

Au contraire, we went back and forth to Christ Church college three times. The first attempt we didnt buy the ticket because the great hall opened at 2 pm. The second time we came back after lunch, there was a very long queue to buy entrance ticket. We chose to leave for Oxford Central Mosque first and came back for the third time and got our ticket. It costed £25 for family ticket. Christ Church is the most popular more because of the potterhead wants to see the staircase where Harry met Draco for the first time and the Great Hall which resembles of Hogwarts Great Dining Hall.

The market is also full of eye candy stuff. As we love food, we bought home a pack of jam and coffee beans from Oxford Coveted Market. Oxford University souvenir shops spread everywhere and each of the store sell different uniques kind of souvenirs. Compared to Bath which feels like a city for older people, Oxford suits the young people like us (lho?) better.

Also, the House of Wonders in the city centre, a shop where you can get Harry Potter things, is also different than the Harry Potter shop in Kings Cross and House of Spells in London.

The only downside was the weather. It was freaking cold. It was such an achievement to survive a whole day 12 hours winter trip in feels-like-two-degree weather, especially for Langit who managed roaming around the city here and there with her little scooter, enjoyed Thai food for lunch, Libanais for dinner, without any whining. I am very proud of my little girl.

A silent pray spelled wish she had a chance to go back to this city for studying one day.

Amin.

Radcliffe Camera. Oxford Iconic Monument
Bridge of Sigh
City Centre
House of Wonders
The coveted market
The Stairs
The Great Hall
Oxford Central Mosque

Seriously listening to the audio tour about her future school. Can we have an Amen?
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London’s Markets

We have one destination that we always visit whenever we travel : Market. In Paris, we visited Bastille Market, in Tokyo there is the famous Tsukiji Market. In Seoul, we plan to visit more than one market, but we ended up visiting Gwangjang Market twice! Among all the destinations, in 5 days, Gwangjang Market got the honour to be visited twice😁.

Now we are living in London, it’s the heaven of markets. From touristy markets until local farmers market, we have visited few of them. Some of markets are also tourist destinations. While the markets we visited near our house are more of the local one. These markets have been there since hundred years ago and they still keep running until now.

Some of the famous tourist markets in central London we have visited so far :

1. Borough Market

Located near London Bridge and London bridge station. This one is also famous because of Harry Potter shooting location.

2. Covent Garden

Covent Garden is torn between sophisticated, artsy, and parish. It smells, sounds, and feels like mini Paris when I visited it for the first time. The second time I went with the doctor during his day off, we ended up buying two real leather made in England jacket and coat from one of the sellers whom we really admired his sales skill. We only wanted to look around at first but ended up bought TWO leather jackets. Me, who is rarely tempted buy anyone or anything, finally made my most expensive purchase during three months living here. Regret? Obviously, NO. I got a new nice leather jacket!

3. Shoreditch and Old Spitafield Market

These two located in East London and could be reached within walking distance. Shoreditch is bigger and full of mouth watering street food, vintage and second hand things and also street musician. Old Spitafield is full of cute things that you rarely found in other markets. Like these first pictures below.

I once visited Shoreditch when we came here in 2017 like written in my old post. The second time, almost no picture taken. Beside, Shoreditch on weekend is totally crowded!

4. Greenwich Market

When other three markets above are all in zone 1, Greenwich Market is in Zone 2. Although it’s not that very central, but this one could be included as a tourist market. Greenwich itself is worth yout time visiting it. I have written this before.

I have visited this market twice and it turned out maybe there are different tenants on different day. These pictures below were taken when I visited the market on Wednesday. When the second time I came on Saturday, some tenants were totally different.

Hand made knit child sweater

5. Portobello Market

This one is also in central London and it sells lots of antiques. It is located near the famous Notting Hill. Among the five, this one is my least favorite.

Some of tourist markets are still on the to-be-visited list when we have some time to be tourists again later. This December is about Christmas Market and so far we have only visited one in Hyde Park. Looking forward to visit the other markets when the school holiday is here!

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Hyde Park Winter Wonderland

Sabtu lalu, sesi playground gratisan ditiadakan. Kenapa?

Karena :

1. Weekend perdana dibukanya Winter Wonderland di Hyde Park.

2. Udah gajian (🤭).

Alesan pertama ngga ada artinya kalo ngga ada yang kedua karena Winter Wonderland ini cukup mahal (buat saya), seperti halnya museum-museum berbayar di kota ini.

Hyde Park Winter Wonderland buka setiap hari jam 10.00-20.00 dari tanggal 21 November 2019 – 5 Januari 2020. Tutup di hari Natal. Masuk ke Winter Wonderland ini gratis. Jadi kalo cuma mau liat christmas market dan keliling tanpa beli dan naik atraksi apa-apa, bisa ngga keluar uang. Ada beberapa atraksi berbayar seperti ice skating, sirkus, Paddington on Ice, dan lain-lain. Wahana permainannya pun cukup banyak dan semua berbayar. Sistemnya adalah kita beli token di loket khusus baru bisa digunakan di wahana tujuan.

Tujuan utama dateng kesini adalah mau coba ice skating. Saya ngga pengen-pengen banget sebenernya. Selain ngga bisa, dingin, trus ya lumayan harganya.

Satu sesi ice skating adalah 50 menit. Sebaiknya booking tiket dulu via website. Satu tiket dewasa harganya £14.50 dan anak £9.50, kalo booking slot di jam standar. Jam standar artinya yang ngga terlalu ramai. Kalo weekend ada di slot jam 10-12. Hari biasa juga dihitung waktu standar. Slot peak bedanya hanya 1 pound dengan yang standar.

Tadinya kita pengen dateng malem karena pasti lebih bagus dengan lampu-lampu dan hiasannya. Tapi dengan pertimbangan baru pertama kali, akhirnya kita pilih slot pertama jam 10. Udah dateng dari jam 9.30 dan antriannya udah lumayan. Jam 9.45 gerbang di buka dan sebelum masuk semua tas diperiksa.

Buat ke Ice rink bisa masuk dari gate 5. Saya lupa biru atau ungu ya warnanya. Masuk ke ice rink dan langsung ada backdrop foto berikut fotografer dan mesin fotonya. Pasti difoto, diambil atau ngga terserah kita. Kemudian lanjut ke ruang penyimpanan sepatu dan tas. Tidak diperbolehkan bawa tas apapun. Handphone boleh di kantong. Jadi semua disimpan di loker. Enaknya di eropa, ukuran kaki saya yang ngga lazim pasti ada. Setelah simpen tas yang kalo ngga salah bayar juga mungkin 1-2 pound (karena liat ada kasirnya), sepatu kita dituker dengan sepatu ice skating. Pinjem sepatu sudah termasuk di tiket.

Buat anak seumur Langit dan lebih kecil, mereka tetap menggunakan sepatu biasa lalu dilapisi dengan sepatu besi khusus buat skating. Jadi, kalo main ice skating sebaiknya pakai boot yang plastik. Kalo kata Langit “muddy boot” kaya Peppa Pig.

Setelah ganti sepatu bisa langsung menuju area ice skatingnya. Untuk anak-anak disediakan pinguin doll buat membantu mereka jalan di es. Jadi bisa sendiri. Banyak juga anak-anak yang lebih kecil dari Langit main. Sekecil yang sepertinya bener-bener baru belajar jalan.

Satu yang saya kagum dengan orang-orang eropa ini, anak-anaknya kecilnya agile banget. Awal-awal sampe suka bengong liat anak yg ukuran badannya setengah Langit tapi kemampuan naik skuternya tiga kali dia. Luwes banget dan kaya bener-bener tau mengendalikan skuternya. Saya kadang-kadang ngeri sendiri tapi orangtuanya pun keliatan biasa aja. Di playground pun gitu. Anak-anak umur 1,5 taun manjat sana sini pun terlihat fit banget. Ngga heran sih mereka soal fisik dan mental jauh dari kita. Dari kecil udah disediakan fasilitas dan terbiasa sama aktivitas fisik seperti ini dalam cuaca apapun.

Balik lagi ke sesi ice skating. Seperti yang sudah diperkirakan, Langit keliatan hepi, Pak Dokter juga jelas karena ya dia yang paling pengen, saya ngga bilang ngga enak, tapi menikmati banget juga ngga. Saya menghabiskan waktu dengan mengelilingi ice rink pegangan di pinggiran sambil berusaha jangan sampai jatuh. Sesekali ikutan pegangan di penguin Langit karena ternyata enak banget. Langit juga pas tingginya buat penguin itu, meskipun beberapa kali tetep jatuh.

Satu yang ngga boleh adalah foto di es. Ngga boleh sama sekali keluarin hape dan foto waktu di es. Kalo mau foto kita keluar dulu dari ring, trus yang foto berdiri di luar. Saya dan Pak Dokter sempet kena tegur sebagai orang norak yang baru pertama kali main skating outdoor denga dekorasi bagus😣.

Di arena ice rinknya ada selfie spot dimana kita bisa foto kaya foto box. Kita foto juga disitu. Di slot yang kita pilih cukup enak karena ngga terlalu rame, jadi yang amatir kaya saya gini ngga terlalu khawatir. Saya benar-benar menghabiskan waktu dengan pegangan di pinggiran box. Pernah beberapa kali pegangan tangan sama Pak Dokter yang sedikit lebih jago, yang ada malah hampir jatoh. Di film sih keliatan romantis ya. Padahal mah kalo jatoh yang ada keliatan konyol.

Setelah selesai ice skating, kita ke ruangan ganti lagi dan kembalikan sepatu juga ambil tas. Di ruang ganti selesai ini juga ada kasir buat ambil foto. Kami ambil tiga foto dan bayar £25. Keluar dari ice rink, kita keliling buat liat atraksi lainnya. Langit sempat naik beberapa wahana kaya komidi putar anak-anak, bom-bom car sama satu lagi kaya apa ya. Muter-muter juga cuma agak ekstrim. Cuma tiga aja karena satu wahana lumayan juga harganya. Sesi Winter Wonderland ini ditutup dengan beli lolipop warna-warni.

Kalo ditanya, sebanding ngga sama harganya? Kalo buat yang pertama kali, belum pernah ke winter wonderland dan budgetnya ada, boleh lah. Apalagi kalo cuacanya cerah. Waktu itu kita malah sempet hujan-hujan main ice skating. Anak-anak sih pasti suka ya. Orangtuanya tinggal bayarnya aja sama harus berhadapan sama sakit badan dan kaki setelahnya. Pegelnya ampun.

Jadii, kalo pas ke London akhir taun sama anak ataupun ngga, Winter Wonderland bisa dimasukan sebagai salah satu itinerari.

Satu highlight di hari itu : banyak sekali yang bilang kostumnya Langit lucu banget. Dimana orang-orang pake jaket bulu angsa penahan dingin lengkap, dia pake daster winter beli di Myeongdong karena mamanya pengen dia pake itu yang mana agak susah occassionnya. Maaf ya be.

Sekilas foto ini seakan saya lagi jagain Langit. Kenyataannya adalah saya lagi ikutan pegangan di penguinnya Langit supaya ngga jatuh🤭

Posted in Langit Senja, Maternité, Thoughts

Five Thoughts on the Fifth Years.

1. Since the day she was born
until she rides the scooter on her own,
it’s been a constant reminder that no matter what kind of shit thrown,
we’ll be never left (and walk) alone.

We are Liverpool.

2. Motherhood so far is the longest full time job I have survived.

It’s also the only one I would like to sign up.

3. Like the five brownies and five taste of macarons, it’s been sweet colorful years with her.

Like the five pieces of fruit in the stick shared with the friends, we should bite the most sour raspberry on ţhe top first, followed by less sour blueberry until we can taste the sweetness of the grape.

It’s kind of life I pray for her.

4. Most of the time, we’ll only get what we ask for.

Always ask carefully.

5. Stay healthy, be kind, and forever happy.

Happy birthday, Langit Senja.

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About (The Best Place for) Grocery Shopping in London

I once searched the same topic when I first came here last September. After the honeymoon period of tourist mode was over, the budget was getting tighter, it was only right to find an alternative to do grocery shopping other than in the famous supermarket like Tesco and Sainsbury, or even the higher level one like Mark and Spencer and Waitrose. Once we settled with our flat, the searching for the most reasonable place for grocery shopping became urgent since daily needs and most of our money would be spent there.

The term ‘the best’ here refers to several variables such as price, quality, and availability of the product. We are quite lucky to live in area where we could get the best of those variables in easily accessible places.

When it comes to price, Lidl is obviously on the top of the list. It’s the cheapest among any other supermarkets. When you need fresh vegetables, onion, garlic, fruit, mushroom, Lidl is a better place, even compared to traditional market. With such price, the quality is as well good.

You can get garlic at the same amount with lesser price in Lidl. For example, one pack of garlic in an asian store at traditional market is £1, in Lidl with exactly same amount, even bigger, it costs only 0.62 pence. I paid £1 for two large onions in traditional market, but only spent 0.53 pence for a bag of onion (contain 6-7 pieces of medium onion).

When you go to other supermarkets, the cheapest box of cornflake costs around £2-2,5, in Lidl, assuming you are not fanatic about one brand, with the same thing for cereal, it costs only 50-80 pence. The difference matters (a lot to me).

They even have a pack of rice for only 45 pence. Bless this place of budget saver.

So, Lidl wins for the price and quality.

How about availability and variations?

For these two, Lidl has a rival named ASDA. When it comes to price, Lidl is only slightly cheaper than Asda. The difference is only 5-10 pence for the same item. Asda is better when it comes to variation of products. They have better much selections of spices, frozen food, kind of milk, pastries, and donuts. Another plus point from Asda, they have Halal section on their store. Although they are quite pricey, but the variation leaves you with many choices. You can find lots of halal certified frozen food in Asda. Other than food, you could find home appliances too in big Asda store with pretty good price.

Our microwave was not working well last week and had it repaired costs more than having a new one, we went to Asda to buy new microwave for only £35. Compared to the items we saw in the kitchen appliances store, which cost twice than Asda, it is safe to say that it’s really a good deal.

I always do grocery shopping on Monday. Although lots of promo are offered on weekend, but, doing it on Monday is more preferable. Just like what I did back in Jakarta. Tip Top on weekend is one of the scariest place to be, so does Lidl, Tesco and Asda. Maybe not as scary as Tip Top, but still.

The nearest Asda branch from our place located in a weekend market yard where lots of asian stores and halal butchers are around. So, every Monday spent taking turn between Asda-asian store and Lidl.

When we need wider variation of products, Tesco is our choice. I bought some products like jam and honey in Tesco. When you’re too lazy to visit asian store, Tesco has almost everything that you need from asian store with a slightly higher price. I am talking about a proper Tesco here, not the Tesco express. Just like Asda, Tesco also provides halal section on their store. But, for the variety of products, Asda still has them better. Asda even has packed lamb meat. Something that is quite hard to find.

When Tesco and Sainsbury is more known since they are usually located in touristy area, Lidl and Asda are less famous because most of their stores located in the residential area.

Unlike the doctor, I am quite meticulous about the price, even for the last two pennies behind. For me, every penny matters. Doing the grocery shopping on Monday is also more preferable since I am doing it alone. When its been done as family trip on weekend, I am too scared of disobeying the budget that has been set, because mostly, the shopping goes without the list. Things that we do not (really) need could make it until the cashier desk and finally more pounds are going out of wallet.

I am currently reading a book about an English woman who did an experiment to experience one year without spending other than the compulsory bills and basic daily needs. It’s been quite enjoyable reading and one of her item is about limited grocery shopping budget. The first thing that she did was switching her grocery place from Sainsbury to… Lidl😁.

She only bought what she really used, ate and consumed. She could only do her next grocery when her fridge is almost empty. She also restrained herself from eating out, buying coffee, or even buying lunch/dinner while she has gathering with her friends.

This book is quite relatable for me because for some parts, I have done what she did. But, I am still far too relaxed about buying this and that. My heart is always be the weakest when it goes to bread. My love for bread still wins over the budget saving.

I am planning to be more careful in selecting things that pass the temptation to enter my basket for next month. I can be so firm about things, but can be too scarily relax about food. So, let’s see.

May the force be with me.