Despite of having no helpers around, doing chores regularly, I still consider this little girl has certain level of entitlement that sometimes we couldn’t tolerate.
It’s not only about being an only child. Seen lots of non only child who are so entitled too. Entitlement needed for certain degree. When it comes to dealing with taking care of yourself, you need a bit of entitlement to do that.
But, many couldn’t find the balance and end up being entitled; thinking everything that they have is solely because of their own efforts, or the feeling that they deserve something while in fact, they put too little effort for that, or they’re blinded by their own perception and couldn’t understand where they do wrong.
Things like these are combination of environment and lack of role models. Entitlement comes from the system who allows this to happen and lack of role models who shows the opposite way of entitlement.
From my readings, basically and theoretically, we have covered almost all the issues that can cause the problems. But, in reality, it doesn’t make it easier. We’re so triggered whenever she acts like one spoiled entitled kid.
When I deal with this, my lecture in the car becomes longer and louder. We even stayed in the parking lot for 20 mins to have longer lecture and stopped the sobbing.
Done with the lecture, proceed to the conclusion and consequences.
But this time, after listing all the things she had done wrong and some responsibilities that she neglected, instead of giving an ultimatum of consequences, I asked her to choose her own consequences. I want her to think what the consequences instead of just feel like being punished.
“If my team didn’t clean the shoes properly, neglect their responsibilities, doing it without their brain, is there any consequences?”
While snorting and sobbing, “OF COURSE! They will complain, they will be angry, and give you bad reviews”.
“Exactly. No escape for consequences if you do something wrong. Now choose yours”.
We negotiated for a while until we reached an agreement sealed it with a hug before she got out of the car.
Stayed even longer in the car after she left to control the breathing and finished this writing.
If one considers money is the biggest issue in raising a child, it’s not really. It’s the thinking part who is tiring the most.
A Penny for My Pensieve 
This is true. Raising children means teaching children…for life, and in a creative way that is aligned with who they are, not who you think they should be, so yep, I agree. You can have all the money in the world, but that doesn’t make raising them any easier (in terms of teaching emotional regulation and ethics).
Having money could make it easier only at certain level, but, its function stop there and you still have a lot of homeworks that money alone can’t do.