Posted in Thoughts, Travel

A Throwback Thursday and 25th of October

It’s an endless talking when Paris is the subject.

Learnt the language since elementary school, had the visa stamped on the passport in 1994, but chicken pox stopped the plan. Happily spent three years studying the language after long office hours, even took the international exam in french DELF (like IELTS/TOEFL) although just passed miserably for B1 level, thinking mastering the language would take the step closer to this city.

There were times when checking the ticket price was the most enjoyable guilty pleasure. Opened several tabs from several airlines just to see how much it would be to go there.

It was a long road to finally set these feet in this city and it came with such an expensive price, literally and unliterally.

Seven days spent here was truly an exceed expectation experience. When most people had unpleasant experience with this lady, je n’ai souvient d’aucun.

The kind metro officer who taught how to use the machine to buy the bus ticket, the tall cashier at small supermarche kindly helped changing the money into coins, the old lady who friendly chatted during the queue in Monoprix, the ladies in the bus who looked at Langit nicely and played peek a boo, the unfriendly-look Louvre guard who showed us the door to skip the long queue, that tiny and chaos apartment in non-touristy Boulevard Saint Germaine found in the very last minutes before departure, the street which felt like a fashion spread where those chic and stylish Parisiens made a beautiful sight to the eyes, lovely weather and beautiful colors, I didn’t know spending seven days in a city could be this happier. Or maybe that was the price after those long waiting years.

Quoting From Elizabeth Speare, The Witch of Blackbird Pond :

“After the keen still days of September, the October sun filled the world with mellow warmth… The maple tree in front of the doorstep burned like a gigantic red torch. The oaks along the roadway glowed yellow and bronze. The fields stretched like a carpet of jewels, emerald and topaz and garnet. Everywhere she walked the color shouted and sang around her .. “In October any wonderful unexpected thing might be possible.”

There are always something about 25th October.

It was the departure date when the three big dreams were set in 2003.

It was the day of Wukuf in Arafah in 2012 when the second dreams checked.

It was the date printed on a boarding pass when the third and longest dream accomplished in 2016.

25 October is always be a reminder that dreams do come true and it would take a long journey until you arrive at the final destination.

It’s also a reminder there were no single thing as a coincidence in life. The invisible hand arranged everything to the smallest detail for all things happened in life.

But, worry not, He fulfilled all dreams without exception.

Posted in Places, Review, Travel

Memilih dan Pengalaman Menggunakan AirBnb di Luar Negeri

Beberapa waktu lalu sempat baca ada seseorang yang tanya pengalaman pake AirBnb karena sama sekali belum pernah dan bingung bagaimana cara memilihnya. Saya baru sadar kalau AirBnb masih kurang meyakinkan buat sebagian besar orang sebagai tempat menginap kalo bepergian. Memang hotel jelas lebih aman dan terpercaya, apalagi ke tempat yang kita pun ngga familiar. Lebih praktis dan ngga ribet juga. Kalo hotel yang udah punya nama, selama cocok harganya, beres.

Empat kali memakai jasa AirBnb di luar negeri dan belum pernah sekalipun di dalam negeri. Untuk liburan domestik, saya masih team hotel karena ya bisa disesuaikan sama budget dan ngga perlu banyak beres-beres, buat saya.

Sedangkan kalo ke luar negeri dengan budget ketat, hotel jelas di luar pilihan. Buat saya, AirBnb ini salah satu ide jenius. Liburan jauh dari rumah tapi seperti punya rumah untuk pulang setelah seharian jalan. Penting buat orang rumahan (kaya saya).

Pengalaman menggunakan AirBnb di Paris, London, Manchester, dan Tokyo, alhamdulillah semuanya aman, menyenangkan, dan sesuai budget. Ketika pencarian Airbnb dimulai, beberapa filter yang pasti saya tetapkan :

1. Seluruh apartemen (Entire place)

Karena selalu pergi sekeluarga, berbagi dengan hostnya ngga akan jadi pilihan. Pergi sendiri juga ngga bakal milih sharing sih😀.

Semua AirBnb yang pernah dipesan di Paris, London, Tokyo, dan Manchester adalah seluruh apartemen.

2. Harga per malam.

Kedua, jelas harga. Titik bulat yang menunjukkan range harga jelas langsung digeser sekiri mungkin buat traveler budget pas-pasan kaya saya sampai batas ketersediaan tempat. Kalo ngga dapat, terpaksa geser ke kanan. Sedikit.

Kita bisa set berapa harga per malam sesuai budget yang ditetapkan. Tentu dengan konsekuensi ya. Semakin murah, pilihan semakin terbatas dan jelas ada harga ada rupa. Biasanya kompensasi lain untuk harga adalah lokasi. Semakin dekat ke pusat kota biasanya semakin mahal. Begitu pun sebaliknya.

  • Pengalaman

Di Paris tinggal di daerah Boulevard Saint Germaine di 5th arrondisement, dekat dari Sorbonne dan bisa jalan kaki ke Pantheon, Notre Dame, lima belas menit dari Jardin des Luxembourg, studio mini 2 tempat tidur di lantai 6 disewa seharga Rp 850.000.

Di London tinggal agak jauh dari pusat kota karena nyerah nyari yang harganya di bawah sejuta/malam ngga dapet-dapet. Apartemen ini 2 kamar, bisa early check in, late check out, foto oke, host responsif.

Akhirnya dapet di harga Rp 1.600.000 per malem di daerah Angel Islington. Ada bis langsung ke King’s Cross dan London Bridge. Apartemennya nyaman sekali, lengkap dapurnya, bersih. View dari lantai 7 bisa liat The Shards dan kalo malam bagus banget.

Di Manchester seperti di London juga sewa flat 2 kamar yang letaknya di lantai dasar dan 15 menit dari Manchester Picadilly. Harganya Rp 1.000.000/malam.

Inggris emang mahal ya. Cuma kalo dibandingin hotel buat saya jadi ngga mahal. Karena ya itu, kenyamanan AirBnb yang punya dapur lengkap dan bisa masak sendiri hotel ngga punya.

Di Tokyo sewa studio kecil di daerah Bunkyo-ku tepat di depan Tokyo Dome. Bukan yang populer turis juga tapi buat kita oke karena deket ke subway, ke playground, supermarket, Tokyo Dome yang asik buat nongkrong, dan jalan utama. Harga sewa Rp 550.000/malam.

Oya, di AirBnb harga per malam juga dipengaruhi oleh banyaknya tamu yang nginep ya. Masukin 1 orang atau lebih harga per malamnya berbeda.

3. Peraturan Check in/Check Out

Salah satu hal yang mungkin buat orang lain ngga penting tapi buat saya sangat penting adalah fleksibikitas cek-in dan cek-out,bahkan lebih penting dari lokasi. Buat saya ini yang buat AirBnb punya keunggulan dibanding hotel yang hampir pasti strict dengan waktu masuk dan keluar.

Kalo bepergian ke luar negeri saya sebisa mungkin cari jam penerbangan bukan sesuai jam tidur Langit tapi justru yang waktu tiba di kota tersebut sesuai dengan jam cek in Airbnb yang dipesan. Tapi, karena seringnya agak sulit dan pasti berurusan juga sama harga tiket, saya lebih milih kirim pesan ke host untuk tanya apa mereka mengizinkan early check in atau late check out.

Setelah belasan jam di pesawat, hal yang paling kita butuh ya tempat istirahat yang bener. Badan lengket, mata ngantuk, laper, ga ada lagi tenaga buat luntang-lantung geret-geret kopet kesana kemari sambil nunggu jam cek in. Dan buat traveler rempong kaya saya yang selalu bawa makanan juga dari rumah, pengennya sesegera mungkin ketemu kulkas. Di hotel luar, ngga semuanya ada kulkas, tapi AirBnb pasti punya dan biasanya kulkas yang oke. Nah kan, jadi kemana-kemana.

Kembali lagi masalah cek-in dan cek-out. Selain early cek-in, atau sebaliknya, penerbangan pulang masih malam, tapi kita sudah harus keluar dari pagi. Bawa koper kesana kemari, atau nunggu di bandara berjam-jam itu salah satu yang paling saya hindari. Pergi sama anak kecil akan beda tantangannya. Orang dewasa aja bete kalo lelah apalagi anak-anak.

Makanya, filter waktu check in check out selalu saya set ketika pilih airbnb. Kalo hostnya bilang ngga bisa ya udah, cari lagi sampe dapet. Dan alhamdulillah, selalu dapet. Ngga perlu buru-buru. Tunggu.

  • Pengalaman

Di Paris kami rekues early check-in dan late check out karena sudah sampai Paris jam 10.00 dan pesawat pulang baru jam 18.30. Alhamdulillah dapet host yang baik tanpa biaya tambahan apapun. Di London rekues untuk early check in aja. Sedangkan di Tokyo dan Manchester kita ngga ada masalah.

Jangan salah ya, nemu yang bisa early cek-in dan cek out ini ngga gampang. Jadi harus ketemu paling ngga yang sehari sebelum kita dateng dan ditanggal kita cek out juga kosong. Jadi dapet yang bisa seperti ini pun setelah cari-cari sampe pusing dan setelah beberapa kali penolakan. Tapi ya itu, ngga apa-apa. Selama sabar dan usaha cari terus, percaya pasti ada. Kaya jodoh.

Di Paris dan London, check in dan check out dilakukan dengan host atau orang yang ditugaskan mengurus apartemen. Jadi beneran ketemu dengan orang langsung. Sedangkan di Manchester dan Tokyo dilakukan self-check in. Jadi setelah konfirm dan dua minggu sebelum kedatangan, kita dikirimkan buku panduan via email dan cara check innya. Host Tokyo detil sekali menjelaskan berbagai hal di buku panduan. Sampai cara memisahkan sampah pun ada!

4. Lokasi

Ini erat hubungannya sama poin ke dua. Semakin populer tempatnya biasanya semakin mahal. Kalopun ada yang murah biasanya ya apartemennya juga menyesuaikan.

Lokasi juga penting kalau ada atraksi atau yang memang ingin dikunjungi dan kemudahan akses transportasi. Misalnya dekat dengan halte bis atau stasiun subway/metro. Tapi buat saya lokasi itu bisa diatur. Yg penting sesuai sama budget dan bisa cek in fleksibel.

Seperti yang sudah dijelaskan di atas :

  • Paris di Boulevard Saint Germaine (left bank, 5th arrondissement)
  • London di daerah Islington, di North kalo liat dari kodeposnya.
  • Manchester di Aquarius Street, 15 menit dari Picadilly, bisa jalan kaki ke University of Manchester.
  • Tokyo di daerah Bunkyo-ku dekat Tokyo Dome. Subway terdekat Korakuen Station.

5. Foto dan petunjuk praktis

Nah, ini juga penting. Saya hampir selalu pilih airbnb yang nyantumin foto lebih dari 10. Makin banyak dan detil yang dicantumkan semakin meyakinkan. Apalagi kalo foto apartemennya bagus, trus dikasih juga gambaran gimana cara sampe ke apartemen dari bandara berikut alat transportasi umum yang bisa digunakan selain taksi tentunya.

Foto memang terkadang beda dari aslinya. Tapi ngga mungkin beda 100% juga. Jadi, semakin banyak dan bagus fotonya menurut saya semakin aman karena berarti hostnya niat.

  • Paris mencantunkan 15 foto tapi sudah lebih dari cukup karena memang kecil
  • London mencantumkan 35 foto kalo saya ngga salah ingat.
  • Manchester hanya 12 tapi cukup jelas.
  • Tokyo mencantumkan 49 foto.

6. Review

Setelah harga cocok, lokasi oke, foto meyakinkan, sebelum akhirnya ke langkah ke tujuh, baca review rumah tersebut wajib dilakukan. Kalo hotel, hampir ngga pernah baca review, tapi kalo AirBnb wajib.

Oya, AirBnb punya badge Superhost buat rumah yang memang sudah banyak digunakan dan mendapat review bagus dari customernya. Empat kali saya pergi, ngga pernah pilih yang superhost karena biasanya ngga fleksibel cek-in. Mereka biasanya full booked, jadi ngga memungkinkan untuk kita cek in atau cek out lebih awal atau akhir.

Iya, sepenting itu fleksibel cek-in buat saya.

Empat kali di empat tempat yang berbeda reviewnya pun bukan yang sampe puluhan dan ratusan, hanya sekitar delapan, sebelas, paling banyak dua puluh. Satu hal yang jelas, semua reviewnya baik, dan sangat sedikit review yang ada “the host canceled this booking”. Host bisa membatalkan booking dengan atau tanpa persetujuan kita.

7. Mengirim pesan kepada host

Nah, kalo enam hal itu udah jelas, atau misalnya semuanya udah sreg, tapi fleksibel cek-in masih belum jelas, biasanya hal terakhir sebelum saya tekan ‘book’ adalah mengirim pesan kepada hostnya.

Meskipun bisa saja langsung pesan, tapi saya lebih suka dan pas kalo sebelumnya memperkenalkan diri dulu sekaligus ‘melihat’ respon hostnya. Biasanya di dalam pesan yang dikirimkan saya kenalkan nama, asal kota dan bilang kalo saya tertarik untuk memakai tempat mereka di tanggal yang ditentukan.

Saya juga menjelaskan dengan siapa saja saya akan datang. Oya, ngga semua rumah itu mengizinkan anak-anak ya, jadi kalau bawa anak terutama di bawah 12 tahun, sebaiknya dijelaskan.

Lalu kalo seandainya saya punya pertanyaan saya tanyakan dibawahnya sepertu ketersediaan alat dapur dan ya itu apakah memungkinkan untuk fleksibel cek-in. Bagusnya di AirBnb ini, mereka kasih respon rate buat setiap host. Jadi kita bisa kira-kira kecepatan pesan kita dibalas. Ada yang bahkan ngga balas sama sekali. Ada yang ketika tau bawa anak menolak. Dan ngga perlu sedih, cuma perlu cari lebih banyak. Setelah empat kali pakai, saya yakin, kita akan nemu sesuai dengan yang kita mau, jadi ngga perlu buru-buru.

8. Self-room service

Ngga bisa nemu kata yang pas buat artiin ini. Cuma di AirBnb karena kita menyewa rumah orang jadi memang sebaiknya kita bantu jaga kebersihan dan kerapihannya. Buat sebagian orang emang mungkin ngga pas karena liburan jauh-jauh musti beres-beres (alesan yang sama yang saya pake kalo liburan domestik pilih hotel).

Saya hampir selalu pilih yang studio supaya semakin kecil semakin sedikit area beres-beresnya dan saya ngga akan milih rumah yang banyak printilan kecil-kecil mengingat pergi sama anak. Pokoknya cukup yang basic ada. Selama ini kita selalu bagi tugas siapa ngerjain apa. Jadi soal beres-beres, cuci piring, dsb ngga ada masalah. Ngga banyak juga.

Buat tipe orang yang kebanyakan mikir dan pertimbangan kaya saya, pencarian AirBnb ini seperti kesenangan sekaligus penyiksaan terhadap diri sendiri. Cari dengan berbagai tempat, naikin filter budget dikit-dikit, karena berdasarkan pengalaman, dengan kata kunci tempat yang sama, rumah yang keluar di daftar bisa berbeda. Makanya memang ngga perlu buru-buru. Rumah yang menjadi kandidat pilihan bisa kita tandai dengan simbol ❤ dan otomatis akan masuk ke wish list. Harganya juga bisa berubah lho. Memang ngga sebanyak itu, tapi kalo bisa dapet beberapa dolar lebih murah kenapa ngga, hehe.

Semoga bisa bantu sebagai pertimbangan memakai AirBnb ya!

Tertanda,

Customer yang sangat puas menggunakan AirBnb.

Posted in Thoughts

After Paris

August, 2017.

I have been living ‘uncomfortably’ comfortable after Paris was beautifully executed in last year. Having all three big dreams fulfilled was one of the greatest feeling I had as a human. Paris became my third and last twenties personal biggest dream to achieve. Then, when it was done, what’s next? Nothing.

And, with that, the emptiness attacked.

Less spiritful days, going through month by month by keep asking ‘what’s next’, and no satisfying answers came. Thinking about living the rest of time without having any specific dream is torturing. Of course, there’s Langit who makes another big purpose, but Langit is not a dream. She is my responsibility, whether I like it or not, I have to keep going.

I’d been thinking about going back to several places that once made me happy, but with current situation, it didn’t feel that appealing anymore. Those places like school and french course were only suitable for my carefree twenties. Not with my heavy and full of responsibilities thirties. I should find something else that is worth my time and energy better.

I am almost done with myself. I have no unfulfilled dream which I would regret not having it when I die. I had travelled quite a lot, I did my master degree abroad, I did my Hajj, I took care of my mother until her last breath, I am taking care of my father in his old age, I enjoy my current work and feel the satisfaction about that, I sleep, eat, and live safely and comfortably.

I have received a lot. It’s about time to return the kindness. Something that is worth my energy and my time shouldn’t be something that centered to myself. It should be bigger than that. I should upgrade definiton of work for myself too. Something that is not only about me, but more for others.

I have learnt a lot that work(s) is only meaningful if you have clear purpose and goals to be achieved. Without them, work feels like a routine to earn money, to pay those endless bills monthly, and wushh, it’s gone without a trace.

I’ve been craving for work that has some significant impacts for others and for myself to drag me out of my comfort zone. I want to do more than what I have been doing, I need to learn something new and exciting because I feel like I am done with my current lesson chapter.

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October, 2018.

This writing has been saved in draft for almost a year. Somehow I couldn’t finish it because,wow, never knew starting and running a bussiness would be such headache and honestly, I felt it was too far from cool. Although it’s still a tiny one, but the problems to deal with were quite a lot. Dealing with employees, customers, the license owner, the struggle to make sales and getting customer, there were real battles.

There were times when I felt I really wanted to give up and just let it run with the flow, but, I just couldn’t do it. We have started and I want to see where this will be going to. If this one fail later, I need to make sure that I have done everything in my power to make this work.

Through this tiny bussiness, I now understand how safe it is to be an employee, not to say this to offend since I am still one too until now. You jusy have to do your work and every certain date you get your paycheck. Done. Meanwhile as a bussiness owner, I have been constantly insecure whether the sales could make it to pay all the salary and rent.

It’s been a year and progresses have been here. The old store has been renewed and among four first employees, three were not there anymore and it is okay. I also learn that people are replacable. Losing one, the other one will come. Of course it takes certain things to deal with new one, but, to keep someone who doesn’t want to stay or giving bad influence to the store culture, I prefer letting them go. I also decide to hire male employee only. Me as a woman is more than enough. The bussiness suits male more than female too.

Like almost everything in life, I take this one seriously too. Never missed a day visiting the store and checking the work result and doing quality control on each work given to the employees. Keep thinking and searching ways to improve sales, because this one should have real profit. Replying those inquiries, complaints,and sending notifications to customers, and dealing with monthly report.

Running this bussiness feels like having a second child. By having another child it means I have to sacrifice another thing too like cutting another working day so I can be more focused. There were times when I also totally cut any ties from dramaland. Watched not even one drama for months. The real life dramas had been more than enough at that time and there were times when I feel like resigning from this.

Maybe just like raising a child, first year is always the toughest, physically and emotionally taxing, and for me this one is no different. Entering the second year, it’s more comfortable for some part but I still couldn’t lose my guard. I always have this kind of feeling that when I am loose when it’s calm, I have to pay more during the storm.

Of course I don’t have to stand by all day during open hours, but I always come everyday before the operation hours. I am still dealing with stuffs when I am home or even during the trip. Yes, I keep dealing with this too when I was overseas.

I am pretty lucky to have this team with me who can be trusted with money and work and they have been very much reliable. Without them, I couldn’t do this at all. I could take few days off during my trip and having them report to me daily and so far it’s been running well. Alhamdulillah.

It’s too early to say this one a succesful one and almost never this one becomes something I boast about everywhere. It’s far from easy yet I am beyond grateful having this chapter full of new learnings in my life. When some statements above seemed saying that it’s really hard and far from pleasant, in fact, I enjoy many parts of this. I enjoys replying messages, explaining about things, showing what we have done, eventough the end is not always become sales, but It feels nice knowing I have helped someone with their curiosity.

In the end, hopefully this one gives more benefits to people who use our service and also the employees who work with us, and if it can touch more lives, then I would be much happier.

Wishing for more endurance to survive this and become better than before. Amin.

Posted in Favorite things, Langit Senja

Swimming Lesson

It had been some times when we were thinking about enrolling Langit to swimning lesson to get a proper training. So, when her school distributed extraculicular form at the beginning of August, we didn’t hesitate to sign up for swimming. It turned out Langit was the only one from her class who went for swimming class.

The lesson runs every Friday afternoon with 3-4 other older kids. Most of them are in primary school grade 2 or 3. At first, I was quite dobtful if she could keep up with them or they could tolerate a little girl joined their group because of skill level difference. Gladly, after first lesaon, the coach said he didn’t have any objections for Langit to join the Friday class with those older kids.

I am quite satisfied with the lesson as well as the coach. After eight sessions, Langit has freee from any arm floats and really start learning to swim properly. She enjoys and keeps looking forward to her lesson too. It’s a joyful feeling to see her enjoying something that we consider important for her life. Hopefully she keeps the excitement and the courage to learn until she really masters all swimming skills.

We are pretty strict when it comes to swimming. Along the lesson, one of us keep standing by the pool to keep her focus (pardon our annoying voices on the videos). Swimming is not a mere sport. It’s a must learn and if possible, master, because it’s one of the most important survival skills.

First Meeting

Fifth Meeting

Eighth Meeting

Posted in Review

Lima Menit Perpanjangan STNK Mobil di Samsat Drive Thru

Selama beberapa tahun urus perpanjangan STNK mobil sendiri, saya selalu pake cara ‘lama’ yaitu ambil formulir ke informasi, isi, ambil nomor antrian, menyerahkan dokumen ke loket lalu antri dipanggil oleh masing-masing loket sampai selesai. Kalo lagi beruntung satu jam selesai. Kalo lagi rame banget bisa sampai 1,5-2 jam.

Berawal dari dua tahun lalu, karena antriannya rame banget dan saya ada urusan lain, saya terpaksa pulang dan akan balik besoknya lebih pagi. Waktu mau keluar, saya liat papan tanda DRIVE THRU. Awalnya ragu-ragu karena saya ngga ngerti, cuma karena penasaran akhirnya saya masuk dan parkir mobil dekat loketnya. Turun dan pergi ke loketnya nyerahin dokumen.

Petugas yang ada di loket langsung bilang,

“Bisa baca papannya?” katanya sambil nunjuk ke papan atas persyaratan dokumen untuk perpanjang STNK Drive Thru.

“Iya pak, udah bawa semua dokumennya,”. Saya jawab.

“Baca lagi yang bener,”

Saya mulai keringet dingin. Udah baca berapa kali dan saya ngga liat apa yang salah. KTP asli, STNK lama asli dan fotokopi, BPKB asli juga bawa. Karena beneran ngga ngerti apa yang salah saya tanya lagi,

“Pak, saya ngga ngerti karena belum pernah. Bisa dijelaskan apa?”

“Bawa mobilnya ke sini, mbak!”.

Saya sempet makin bingung. Kadang kalo lagi panik kebodohan emang naik drastis. Ngeliat saya diem, petugasnya ntah kesian entah gemes,

“Mbak bayar dari dalem mobilnya. Jadi, puter lagi antri sekalian mobilnya kesini,”

Ah, ya ampun. Ga pernah jajan drive thru sih emang. Beneran.

Akhirnya langsung saya masuk mobil, muter lagi dan masuk ke dalam antrian drive thru dan di depan loket buka kaca dan menyerahkan dokumennya : KTP Asli dan fotokopi, STNK asli dan fotokopi, fotokopi BPKB (aslinya bawa aja jaga-jaga minta ditunjukan).

Satu yang harus diperhatikan adalah untuk samsat drive thru ini TIDAK BISA DIWAKILKAN. Harus yang punya mobil beserta mobil yang akan diperpanjang STNKnya harus hadir di depan loket.

Seingat saya petugasnya sempat bilang, bisa diwakilkan asalkan membawa mobil yang tertera di STNK dan yang mewakilkan punya alamat KTP yang sama dengan yang punya mobil.

Saya biasanya langsung urus sekalian punya ayah saya, dan sempat tanya bisa ngga punya ayah saya sekalian dan dijawab ngga bisa karena mobil ayah saya tidak ada. Jadi, saya kembali ke Samsat besoknya bersama ayah saya dan mobilnya.

Setelah menyerahkan dokumen ke loket, mobil maju sedikit ke loket kasir untuk pembayaran. Setelah bayar, petugasnya langsung memberikan STNK baru dan selesai semua. Kalo ngga ada antrian bahkan bisa kurang dari lima menit dan seringnya hampir ngga ada antrian ya.

Kemudahan-kemudahan pelayanan publik seperti ini sangat menyenangkan. Efektif dan efisien. Semoga semakin banyak yang bisa seperti ini ya.

Posted in Review, Travel

(Updated) Flight to and from Kuala Lumpur

I had this question quite often from close relatives who would like to go to Malaysia for the first time. Most of them think about Air Asia when it comes to cheap price, which is something I don’t (really) agree (at all).

During 1,5 years of master study there, I went back and forth from both Jakarta and Kuala Lumpur 10 times. The very first thing I did once I had the fix schedule of all lectures was searching for the cheapest flight back home. All tabs in my laptop were about all airlines websites. Did I buy it straightly?

Of course, NOT!

I brought those fare comparison to my dream first. Even for days. I rechecked them every day for few times because the fares changed depends the time you checked it. For a stingy student like me, it was sensitive. Being hesitate whether to buy now or later. Imagining it wherever I went. Then, cursed myself when I saw the second time the price was higher. Such a true masochist.

After so many times doing like that, I really found that some airlines were truly cheaper than Air Asia. In fact, Air Asia became my very last choice among other airlines. The ticket price only was maybe cheap, but, once you continued your booking, other cost kept piling up and at the end of your booking, voila! That will be very far from cheap.

So, here’s my preference from the most to the least :

1. Lion Air

SURPRISE!! When domestically Lion Air is known to be the master of delay, I didn’t find it for several times I fIew with them. I found Lion Air had a flight to Kuala Lumpur ( or Jakarta) accidentally. It had been a hard battle inside my mind when two airlines which I regularly used gave me an expensive total fares for my pocket. Even after several days, it didn’t change much.
I just read a tweet several days ago saying ‘Price is the only tool that is able to make people realize they have another choice or they have to find one’. It is very true. Those airlines fares which I think too expensive made me search for other options. Then, instead of one, I found two other options. Lion air is one of them.

The best thing about Lion Air, it shows you directly the total price and with that price comes 20 kg of baggage allowance. No need to pay additional cost. It was very agreeable for me. Even more, they were truly good value for your money. I often got as cheap as IDR 350.000 one way from Jakarta to Kuala Lumpur. It costs the same like you fly to some cities in Java.

The second best thing about Lion Air is they depart from KLIA, not LCCT. It has the price of Low Cost airline, but they depart from high cost airline airport.

Recently, as far as I know, LCCT does no longer exist. They replaced it with KLIA 2.

Third and the last, few times flying with them, I never once experienced any delays. It was very punctual and more, the aircraft was big and clean. Guess it was new.

So, for all those three reasons, Lion Air is on my top of list.

2. Malaysian Airlines

This one is one of the regular that I often use. Before knowing how much cheap the fare between two cities, I used to think MAS was very cheap. When we first went there with my mum and sister, I found IDR 750.000 was a very good deal. Only after that I found out, it became the most expensive fare I paid among all my trips.

But, surprisingly, if you are persistent enough to regulary check their website, you can find a very shocking price like I once had. I once got the ticket price from Jakarta to Kuala Lumpur at IDR 75.000. YEP, three zeros only. Not even reach 10 USD. As for the total fares, it became IDR 239.000. See, it was a very very good deal.

Of course, MAS departs from KLIA and it has a lot of check in counters. The aircraft might not as big as Lion as far as I remembered, the leg room was quite narrow too. One thing is an advantage from MAS, they have lots of schedules in a day. My mum once was late for check in for 7 am departure and she couldn’t fly with her originally booked flight. Then, the check in staff simply changed it to the next flight schedule at 9 am. No additional charge, no grumpy face scolding us for being late. A very good service. Overall, it’s good.

3. Air Asia

Here’s the cheap airline which often turns out to be not cheap at all. Even start from the ticket price only, it wasn’t that cheap. You have to pay more for baggage according how many kilos that suitable for your belongings. After that, you pay for your seat, which is something that I think it’s a bit ridiculous. Do they expect us to stand up during the flight?

The aircraft is far from spacious, the seat is not really comfortable, and they depart from LCCT. Unlike KLIA, LCCT was an airport who looks like a bus terminal. I don’t know about KLIA2 since I have never been there, but my experience with LCCT immigration is quite bad. Long queue and less friendly officer everywhere.

Even when I was a poor stingy student, Air Asia was the very last choice among other airlines.

But, maybe if you manage to get the ticket from BIG SALE or FREE SEAT and you’re pretty tight in budget then this one might be a good idea. My sister got Rp 1.000.000 to KL for 4 persons ticket only. She bought it 8 months before the trip and didn’t use it at all. Quite expensive, right?

4. Tiger Airways

I found this when I found Lion Air. It was pretty similar with Air Asia. You pay for your baggage and seat. The price was slightly cheaper. I only tried this once or twice maybe. I didn’t feel too comfortable with this although there was no problem at all during the flight. It also departed from LCCT.

Actually, there were other two airlines at that time, Garuda Indonesia and KLM. But, both were out of my league. Hence, I left them.

So, if anyone ever ask me which one to choose, you surely know the answer.

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UPDATED

Our recent trip to Kuala Lumpur gave me a chance to try another new fiight from Kuala Lumpur. We went by my favorite Lion Air, it was as punctual as I remembered six to seven years ago, and for the return flight I chose KLM. It suited us for the schedule and I wanted to know what it looked like. I will put another two airlines I have experienced.

5. KLM

Like Lion Air, KLM departs from KLIA and also pretty punctual. The flight attendants like any other European or American airlines were not as young as those ones from Asia or Middle East ones. They were friendly enough for me. They greeted Langit nicely too. The legroom is perfect, it also comes with flight entertainment with good collections.

They also gave snack and drink during the two hours flight. The snack was dutch pastry and drink you can choose like water or juice. The seat formation is 3-4-3. I didn’t expect this before but it turned out that it arrived at new terminal 3 ultimate CGK. So, that was the very first time I set my foot in our new terminal too.

So, when you’re willing to pay a bit more than using budget airlines, KLM is quite nice. The only thing it lacks of is they only have one schedule for depart and return. So, no schedule option available.

6. Malindo Air

I took this one during our UK trip last year and wrote a review . Malindo is part of Lion group and it is similar to Batik Air only Malindo is operated by Malaysian. It uses the same aircraft like Lion Air but also distributes snack like any other full board one for two hours flight.

I only knew this airline because I was searching for the same baggage amount like Qatar Airways and I found Malindo was the only which offered 30kg baggage.

I wasn’t too impressed by the flight attendants, they were not so helpful and not that friendly too. But, other things were just ok. If I had another choice between KLM and Malindo, I obviously go for the former.

It always feels nice to go back to Kuala Lumpur. A piece of my heart surely left there.

Posted in Places, Travel

Kabur ke Kuala Lumpur

Tahun ini Alhamdulillah rejeki jalan-jalannya terbuka lebar. Kabar kalo Pak Dokter diminta untuk menjadi pembicara di forum anastesi nasional disusul disuruh ikut simposium di Kuala Lumpur dateng bulan lalu. Setelah ikut seminar di Surabaya bulan Mei lalu dan ngerasain enaknya nginep di Marriot 3 hari dan keliling kota Surabaya yang rapi dan bersih, rejekinya Langit buat liat Kuala Lumpur sekaligus pulang kampung buat saya setelah enam tahun.

Tiga hari di Kuala Lumpur, saya cukup terkesan perubahan-perubahan yang ada di kota ini sejak enam tahun lalu terakhir di sana. Pembangunan di KL Sentral sudah selesai dan terminalnya bahkan lebih bagus dari bandara di Indonesia dengan tenant-tenant yang menarik. Jadi, sekarang kalo mau naik Monorail dari KTM atau LRT ngga perlu lagi ngelewatin jalan raya. Semuanya terhubung dengan jembatan penghubung indoor. Nyaman buat geret-geret koper.

Saya kurang tau sejak kapan tapi sekarang Kuala Lumpur punya bis GRATIS GO KL buat warganya dan turis ke beberapa tempat atraksi di sekitar Kuala Lumpur. Bisnya ada empat line : hijau, biru, pink, ungu. Nyaman banget. Buat turis yang nginepnya biasanya sekitaran KL Sentral atau Bukit Bintang dan KLCC, bisa kemana-mana dengan bis ini. Saya sempat coba yang line hijau dan ungu. Satu ke Pasar Seni/Central Market dan satu lagi ke KLCC. Cukup jalan kaki 300m ke halte pemberhentiannya. Busnya pun cukup sering.

Sama seperti di Surabaya, karena pagi sampe sore saya hanya berdua Langit dan kita ngga bawa stroller, jadi jalan-jalannya hanya di sekitar pusat kota aja. Hari pertama setelah sampe dan cek in hotel, tujuan pertama langsung ke Medan Tuanku. Ini tempat saya singgahin pertama kali sama ibu saya waktu sekolah tujuh tahun lalu. Kebetulan di sini sekalian belanja buah dan keperluan sehari-hari dan oleh-oleh seperlunya. Sogo Medan Tuanku selalu jadi departemen store favorit saya. Buat makan malem, bayar kangen di Chicken Rice Shop.

Hari kedua setelah sarapan kita jalan kaki ke KLCC. Pak Dokter simpo di Convention Centrenya, saya dan Langit jalan-jalan sendiri dan tujuan kita adalah KLCC Park.

Saya iri sekali. KLCC Park bukan sekedar taman. Tapi kaya hutan kecil di tengah kota. Pohon rindang, arena playgroundnya bukan luas, tapi SUPER BESAR buat ukuran outdoor,mainannya banyak dengan alas karet di bawahnya, ada kolam renang kecil, sebenernya seperti tempat main air ya, jalan khusus buat yang mau jogging, kursi taman buat duduk, suara burung berkicau, dan matahari pagi. Langit main di sana 2 jam dan saya ngga keberatan nunggunya. Seneng banget.

Sebagian kecil dari mainan di KLCC Park
Bersih, rapi, asri
Jalan kaki karena ngga punya pilihan
Si Kembar

Sampai sempet bilang, tahun depan ada capres programnya bikin kaya gini di lokasi yang terjangkau, saya pilih. Ngga peduli siapa. Taman kota kaya gini cuma bisa ada kalo pemerintahnya mikirin rakyatnya bukan cuma soal uang. Tapi lagi, sepertinya mental orang Indonesia belum siap ya untuk punya taman sebagus ini. Ngga lama mungkin udah penuh sama orang jualan. Kecuali ada aparat tegas yang jaga seperti halnya di KLCC Park ini.

Hari kedua saya habiskan seharian bareng Siti dan keluarganya, mantan teman sekamar saya waktu kuliah. Langit juga bisa main sama Hawaa. Salah satu doa saya setiap kemanapun adalah semoga selalu dipertemukan sama orang yang baik. Siti salah satu jawaban atas doa saya. Bahkan lebih dari ekspektasi saya.

Hari ketiga kita udah punya jadwal mau ke Aquaria KLCC sorenya. Paginya saya dan Langit berenang dulu trus kita jalan pake bis GO KL ke KLCC janjian makan siang sama Pak Dokter dan main di air mancur depan Suria.

Dalam perjalanan salah satu bis GOKL seorang bapak India tua ngasih kita tempat duduk dan nyapa Langit, “you are a beautiful girl,”. Setelahnya dia berdiri sambil nyari sesuatu di buku yang dia bawa. Ternyata dia mau kasih buat Langit. Gambar di bawah ini dia gambar di masjid Jamek.

Di perjalanan bis GOKL dari KLCC ke hotel, ada seorang turis dari Jerman yang berdiri dekat Langit. Dia tiba-tiba ngeluarin sesuatu dari tasnya dan nunjukin ke Langit. Stiker gambar bintang yang dia suruh Langit pilih. Saya selalu percaya kalo manusia itu pada dasarnya baik. Setiap kami traveling, hampir selalu ketemu dengan orang-orang ngga dikenal yang menunjukkan kebaikan-kebailan kecil.

Mungkin ini kenapa traveling itu penting buat kami, untuk melihat banyak hal di luar tempurung sehari-hari supaya mata dan hati juga tidak terkungkung.

Hadiah kecil untuk Langit di bis
Elephant sticker from a stranger

Kami masuk ke Aquaria sekitar jam 17.30. Tiket sudah dibeli via travel apps favorit buatan anak bangsa lulusan Harvard. Buat saya yang belum pernah ke Sea World, Aquaria KLCC cukup oke. Sepadan dengan harga yang dibayar. Ngga terlalu besar tapi cukup menarik. Biota lautnya juga cukup lengkap buat saya.

Selesai dari Aquaria, karena masih agak terang, kita mampir lagi ke playgroundnya KLCC Park. Langit main disana sampai maghrib. Setelah adzan kita jalan kaki lagi buat makan malem di warung Thailand deket hotel yang rating zomatonya tinggi banget. Sampai di Thai Boat Noddle, bener aja penuh. Padahal ya kaya warung beneran. Kita dapet meja di luar. Kaya warung bakso aja. Ternyata rasanya emang sesuai dengan rating zomatonya. Langit juga makannya lahap banget.

Dari Thai Boat Noddle, saya jalan-jalan sendiri di Pavilion sementara dua temen jalan lainnya balik ke hotel.

Hari terakhir pagi-pagi sementara Pak Dokter masih ikut simpo, saya ajak Langit ke KL Sentral naik Monorail. Tujuan utamanya beli roti cane buat dibawa pulang. Keluarga saya semua penyuka roti cane dan karinya. Waktu kuliah saya pernah bawa pulang 20 porsi roti cane😀.

Alhamdulillah tiga hari di Kuala Lumpur lebih dari cukup buat saya. Kenapa judulnya kabur? Selain karena homofon sama lumpur, saya emang kabur sebentar dari lelahnya kerja dan berkutat sama urusan rumah ketika Mbak Wi kesayangan lagi cuti. Semoga cepet balik dan kehidupan normal bisa kembali berputar. Amin.

Tulisan lama tentang Kuala lumpur sebelumnya.

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Terapi Wicara dan Sensori Integrasi di Brawijaya Klinik Kemang

Sebelumnya saya pernah menulis tentang Konsul Tumbuh Kembang di Brawijaya Clinic Kemang dan latar belakangnya.

Kata terapi ini mungkin terdengar kurang menyenangkan ya. Saya pun awalnya sempat ngerasa ngga nyaman. Tapi, semakin banyak baca dan melihat keadaan, akhirnya saya melihat ini sebagai salah satu kekurangan yang dimiliki setiap manusia di antara kelebihan-kelebihan lainnya, dan perlu diperbaiki untuk kualitas hidup yang lebih baik. Terlebih jika memang mampu.

Kami mulai konsul ke Dr. Bernie Andriyani ketika Langit umur 22 bulan karena melihat perkembangan bahasanya yang agak lambat. Konsul pertama disarankan untuk tunggu sebentar lagi menuju 2 tahun. Setelah konsul itu memang kosa kata meningkat pesat sekali, tapi belum dalam kalimat percakapan yang lazim. Setelah itu kami belum konsul lagi dan memutuskan menunggu. Kami menunggu karena anak ini agak di tengah-tengah, bisa berkomunikasi, mengerti instruksi, tapi kalimat kasual sepert halnya orang bicara belum keluar. Misal kalo ingin minum, kalimat seperti “Mah, mau minum” belum terdengar.

Akhirnya setelah lewat tiga tahun dan kami merasa progressnya terlalu sedikit, kami memutuskan konsul lagi. Ternyata Brawijaya Klinik yang di FX Plaza sudah tutup. Praktek dr Bernie jadi ke Brawijaya Klinik Kemang.

Hasil dari konsul Langit disarankan untuk ikut terapi sensori integrasi. Menurut dua dokter yang observasi, kontak mata masih terlalu sebentar dan fokus perlu ditingkatkan. Soal bahasa mereka bilang ini secara kosa kata banyak sekali dan pemahaman bagus, tapi konteks belum bisa. Jadi mungkin lewat sensori integrasi bisa sambil ditingkatkan.

Kami konsul hari Kamis dan langsung mulai hari Jumat. Terapinya dilakukan seminggu dua kali Selasa Jumat dengan dua terapis yang berbeda. Jadwal bisa dipilih yang sesuai dengan jam yang cocok dan kosong.

Kami ambil paket sepuluh kali jadi langsung bayar sekalian di depan. Bisa bayar per datang tapi kena biaya administrasi tiap kedatangan. Sayang juga buat saya. Lagipula, dengan bayar di awal bisa buat lebih berkomitmen untuk selalu datang juga karena ya udah bayar.

Untuk terapinya dikasih slot 1 jam tapi efektifnya sekitar 45-50 menit. Setelah sesi selesai, terapisnya akan menulis di buku terapi dan biasanya ngobrol sedikit dengan orang tua. Untuk terapisnya, ini penilaian dari pengalaman saya, terapis yang hari Selasa lebih menyenangkan dibanding yang Jumat. Orangnya positif sekali, sabar, energik, dan terlihat sangat passionate dalam mengajar. Suka sekali.

Terapis yang Jumat bukan berarti jelek ya, tapi buat menghadapi anak-anak kecil kaya gini, saya lebih nyaman denger terapis hari Selasa. Semua sesi terapi Langit saya anter dan tungguin. Setelah 10 kali kami konsul lagi perkembangannya, belum terlalu signifikan ya karena baru sebentar. Tapi di konsul kedua ini disarankan satu sesi terapi SI diganti denga terapi wicara.

Alhamdulillah karena bisa eliminir satu sesi terapi SI, saya langsung minta disimpan jadwal yang selasa dan jumatnya saya lepas. Alhamdulillah pas banget ada jadwal TW yang kosong hari Selasa juga jadi pas ngga usah dua kali datang. Bensinnya bolak balik juga lumayan 30 km pulang pergi. Memang ada jeda satu jam tapi ngga masalah.

Ruangan terapi SI lebih mirip playground makanya Langit selalu semangat kalo udah SI. Sedangkan ruang TW lebih kaya ruangan kecil dengan 1 lemari berisi mainan, meja dan bangku kecil.

Pada sesi sensori integrasi kegiatannya berupa bermain terstruktur dan punya tujuan tertentu, seperti melatih fokus, koordinasi anggota tubuh, melatih motorik kasar dan halus. Di dalam ruangannya terdapat alat bantu seperti ayunan, tangga panjat, kolam bola, dan berbagai mainan kecil yang membantu kegiatan terapi.

Saya ngga akan menjabarkan detil kegiatan terapi tapi akan cerita tentang progres yang terjadi setelah beberapa sesi terapi. Pertama, fokus yang meningkat. Langit ngga pernah betah duduk diam melakukan sesuatu dalam waktu yang lama. Hal ini juga mungkin yang jadi penyebab kurang suksesnya kelas bayi bermain yang dia ikuti waktu 18 bulan.

Fokus yang meningkat ini saya rasakan waktu anter trial ke beberapa sekolah. Ada satu TK lama dekat rumah yang gaya belajarnya masih duduk diam guru menjelaskan papan tulis dan dia bertahan selama kurang lebih 40 menit di dalam. Tanpa keluar, tanpa lari-lari di dalam kelas dan mencari sesuatu yang lebih menarik.

Dia duduk diem, mendengarkan, waktu dikasih kertas mencoret-coret seadanya, sambil sekali-kali nengok ke belakang ngecek apa saya masih ada. Ketika dia liat saya ada cuma senyum sambil dadah tanpa keluar dari kursinya. Buat saya itu kemajuan besar sekali.

Terapi wicara dilakukan seperti orang ngobrol tapi dengan melatih bagian-bagian fisik mulut dan lidah juga. Biasanya disarankan untuk bawa satu set training brush merek Pigeon untuk menggosok bagian rahang.

Satu hal yang agak menarik, dari awal terapis Langit menjelaskan, masalah Langit bukan di bahasa tapi lebih di artikulasi dan konteks. Langit punya kosa kata yang luas dan pengetahuan yang cukup dalam bahasa Indonesia dan Inggris. Ini disampaikan oleh terapisnya yang bilang sebelum dia bilang menunjuk sesuatu, Langit sudah mengucapkan terlebih dahulu.

Salah satu yang dilatih di sini adalah artikulasi terutama dalam pengucapan kosa kata bahasa Indonesia yang jelas lebih susah dari bahasa Inggris. Dari yang saya dengar di balik pintu, penekanan huruf sepert ‘L’, ‘B’, ‘M’, ‘N’ dilatih cukup sering. Langit juga dilatih untuk membuka mulut lebih lebar sehinga pengucapannya lebih jelas. Ini juga menjadi salah satu manfaat dari training brush di atas.

Kami sempat istirahat sebulan selama puasa dan mulai lagi tiga minggu lalu. Selama jeda sebulan ini, antara percaya dan ngga, Langit berubah dari pendiem menjadi ngga berenti bicara. Kebanyakan dalam bahasa Inggris. Dia mulai membentuk kalimat, lebih ekspresif dan buat kami heran dan lega sekali.

Satu yang ngga terlalu saya ngerti adalah kenapa bahasa Inggrisnya yang maju, secara pengucapan bagus, konteks tepat, sedangkan bahasa Indonesianya lebih susah. Kami bicara dalam bahasa Indonesia dan memang dia suka sekali sama Peppa Pig. Segitu sukanya sampai beberapa episode favoritnya dia hafal kalimat per kalimat. Satu yang bisa dibilang kelebihannya yaitu listening skillnya cukup bagus. Hamil 9 bulan ngajar musik dan bahasa Inggris ngga yakin saya seberpengaruh itu,hehe.

Rencananya kami masih akan meneruskan dua terapi ini untuk beberapa waktu meskipun kemajuannya sudah terlihat sekali. Ditambah dengan sekolah dan daycare semimggu sekali semoga makin memperkuat kekurangan Langit.

Brawijaya Klinik Kemang ini memang fokusnya di tumbuh kembang ya. Terapsinya pun cukup banyak dan saya lihat jadwalnya setiap hari cukup penuh. Saya nyaman sekali di sini dan ngga ngerasa terbebani tiap anter Langit. Ngga ada perasaan terhakimi karena semua di sana memang sedang berjuang untuk sesuatu.

Satu hal yang menguntungkan buat saya, kebanyakan atau setidaknya tiga jam di sana hampir semua anak yamg datang dianter oleh nannynya. Jadi, hampir ngga ada small talk ngga penting yang harus dihadapi. Penting itu buat saya.

Saya ngga punya komparasi biaya terapi di sini dan tempat lain. Saya pun sempet dateng ke beberapa tempat yang jaraknya lebih deket dari rumah, tapi entah kenapa kurang sreg aja. Tempat yang gelap, terapis yang ngga on-time, buat saya jadi mundur.

Di sini buat saya, harga yang dibayar, jarak yang ditempuh sesuai sama kenyamanan dan progres yang terlihat selama enam bulan ini.

Saya yang awalnya juga terasa berat nyetir Kalimalang-Kemang, apalagi abis Pak Dokter tugas di Kalimantan, akhirnya bisa lebih santai dan menikmati. Kurangnya Langit pasti ada salah saya juga dan memperbaikinya juga tanggung jawab saya. Bisa dapet tempat yang baik dengan orang-orang yang baik lebih dari cukup buat saya.

Keadaan Langit ini justru buat saya belajar lebih banyak. Baca lebih sering, cari tau dan akhirnya punya ilmu baru. Buat ibu yang males kaya saya mungkin perlu dipaksa dengan keadaan seperti ini. Males literal atau pun seperti yang saya bahas.

Saya pikir jadi orang tua ini ngga akan lebih mudah seiring umur anak bertambah. Selesai dengan satu hal, hal lain akan datang lagi. Saya percaya selalu ada jalan keluar, cuma percaya juga kalo hadapinnya ngga pernah mudah.

Semoga semua orang tua selalu diberi kekuatan untuk menghadapi semua yang harus dihadapi dan emoga bermanfaat kalo sedang ada yang mencari tempat konsultasi dan terapi tumbuh kembang ya!

Perkembangan selanjutnya https://apennyformypensieve.wordpress.com/2020/10/16/jalan-panjang-menemukan-dld-developmental-language-disorder-bagian-i/

Posted in Langit Senja, Maternité, Thoughts

School is (finally) Cool

Next Monday will be the beginning of Langit’s new adventure in a new place called school. A real school life. After postponed school for some time, she finally shows us that she is ready for that.

I once wrote about school is not cool and it was almost two years ago. Right after that not too pleasant experience, Langit had lots of chances to see the world and had been going places a lot. They were surely more interesting school for her. From Paris, London, Manchester, Liverpool, Tokyo, Solo, Jogja, Surabaya, until Tanah Bumbu. She survived long haul flights well, enjoy lots of new tastes in many places she visited, played in many playgrounds and beautiful gardens, traveling to lots of new places at such young age.

At the beginning of this year, after several meetings with pediatrician, she started her therapy sessions twice a week. This session actually feels more like a private playing lesson. Unlike our previous experience, which made the heart feel so heavy everytime we had a class, this one is a light-hearted one. So grateful that she gets a very kind facilitator to play with for an hour. It’s been seven months and we plan to keep coming.

On May, we enrolled her in a daycare nearby once a week. We try to put and expose her to a larger group. Eventhough it’s only once a week for six hours, she gets enough experience to interact with other children and we’ve been through it with almost zero drama like crying when I left her, etc. She’s been spending six hours there pretty well.

Guess it’s true. When the child is ready, she will be truly ready.

We finally came up with decision about which school to go last May too. After lots of school visits, paying registration fees to some schools, we decided to send her to the very first school we visit. It feels good because I am an avid believer that the first answer is rarely wrong.

It’s a quite new school, still trying to gain new students, and unlike many other parents who prefer the more established one, we choose this school.

We love its big and wide playground with lots of toys. A swimming pool is there too. It’s located inside a housing residence, far from busy road. I once also had a doubt about sending her to less known school, but after what we’ve been through in these past six months, we finally came to a conclusion that we need people who’s willing to understand her and some environment where she could show something that she’s good at.

I found this willingness in the school principle character. A middle-age kind lady who’s been pretty helpful and shows that Langit’s English speaking preference will be fine here and it’s just matter of time when she could acquire bahasa Indonesia as well as her English. Apart from the fact they are still trying to get students, but it’s quite soothing knowing the teachers themselves are eager to help. I once wrote about how I wish to meet this kind of teacher for Langit  like one in the article of this The World Against (Y)Our Introverted-Child.

We told the pricipal that we don’t expect much as long as she is happy to be there, eager to join her friends sometimes and do what the teacher told her to. In fact, we have already mentioned that we prefer letting her stay another year in kindergarten when she is not ready for elementary.

There is possibility that we might be wrong, but hopefully we won’t be or at least, whatever wrongs that will come in the future, it’s all repairable.

I have been praying a lot the same and usual pray that I always recite whenever coming to a new place. For us to meet the kind one. It has been always answered and hopefully this time will too.

Sending my little girl to her first world out there after keeping her safely 24/7 for 3,5 years are surely scary.

Goodluck, baby.

Be ready, mommy.

Bismillah.

Posted in Maternité, Thoughts

Lazy Parenting

Found an article this morning that led me to two other articles that speak what I feel and have been doing for these 3,5 motherhood years.

Never know this term does exist and couldn’t be happier it does exist and there’s nothing wrong with that. Guilt is motherhood bestfriend and to be freed at least a bit from that is relieving.

As the article says :

Lazy parenting is about intentionally providing your child with opportunities to develop a sense of self-efficacy, which in turn will bolster confidence, independence, and responsibility. It’s about mindfully stepping back to allow your child to struggle on their own for a minute rather than rushing in and rescuing. It’s about letting your child find out just how much they are capable of. And they actually are capable of a lot!

It explains things Langit can do at her age like dealing with her bathroom stuff by herself like pee, brushing her teeth, and sometimes bathing herself with my supervision.

She takes care her own dirty laundry, wet towel, as well as dress and undress herself.

She helps herself to prepare her own cup and put a bit of sugar when she feels like drinking hot tea, pour water when she wants to drink, or getting some snack she would like to eat.

She chooses her own clothes, from undies until the outer, wear herself the socks and shoes and she loves walking too.

I have no one to help in taking care of her, more with the doctor is being far away, it’s even less help at home. I need to make her do her own things, at her capacity, to make my daily life a bit easier.

In general, intentionally lazy parenting is the shift in thinking from, “I need to move in and fix this for my kid” to, “I need to step back and see if my kid can manage this on their own. It might take longer and be messier, but if they can do it themselves, then they should.”

Whole-heartedly agree with the statement. If it’s something that the child can do herself, then they should do it herself. Help once or twice would be fine, let them do it alone next time.

Raising my daughter without my mother taught me that parents wouldn’t always be present for their children. There are lots of time when we should deal with things on our own as a child. Such ability is not innate, it should be taught properly and it starts by dealing with the simplest thing in the child’s daily life.

I remember about writing this previously about Lima Beda Tentang Langit.

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Full article could be read here :

https://www.mother.ly/life/im-a-lazy-parent-and-proud-of-it?utm_source=huffingtonpost

https://www.mother.ly/child/what-is-lazy-parenting-and-should-you-try-it